“I dislike the phrase ‘Internet friends,’ because it implies that people you know online aren’t really your friends, that somehow the friendship is less real or meaningful to you because it happens through Skype or text messages. The measure of a friendship is not its physicality but its significance.” ― John Green,
I thank God every day for my online friends. They’re more dependable, caring and loving than my some of my own family and friends.
I have a great circle of online friends. They’re there to support me in times of need and celebrate with me in times of triumph. I know I can depend on them through thick and thin, no matter what. It doesn’t matter that they live thousands of miles away or that they speak a different language.
Friends, whether they are “real” or “online”, are one of life’s greatest joys. We smile when we see a message from them and whatever is happening takes a backseat. We share something funny, sad or meaningful. We ask for advice or give it when needed. We congratulate when something positive happens and offer hugs when something bad happens. Our online friends, through the power of social media, provide love and it’s simply wonderful.
There’s so many amazing people out there who hold a special place in my heart. I thank you all for showing me the power of positive thinking and love. Without you, my life would be miserable. I’m so grateful!
A laugh to make your day: http://www.boredpanda.com/catnip-wine-for-cats-apollo-peak/
Send a message to all your online friends today and tell them how much they mean to you! Share a laugh, like I did above. lol!
“There is a lot that happens around the world we cannot control. We cannot stop earthquakes, we cannot prevent droughts, and we cannot prevent all conflict, but when we know where the hungry, the homeless and the sick exist, then we can help.” — Jan Schakowsky
If you were on a deserted island and could only bring three things, what would it be?
I would bring MR N, an unlimited supply of chocolate and my full library of books.
I love books. It borderlines on an addiction. I love to read and my love affair with books began when I was still in my mother’s womb. She’s a voracious reader and would read constantly when she was pregnant with me. She passed this love for all things books to me and it was the best gift she’d give me.
Why do I love books?
I love how I can learn new things with a swipe of my finger. I love how I can travel all over the world (and other galaxies) any time of the week. I love how I can connect with someone thousands of miles away, living a life I couldn’t imagine. I love how I can escape my life for a little while. I can time travel without leaving my chair.
There’s a lot of talk about how people are reading less and frankly, that’s not true. Amazon would be out of business if that was the case. People are reading and buying books, not to mention going to libraries to read. They just don’t want to pay high prices.
The world and society are a better place when people read. It brings us closer and enlightens us. It’s a dangerous precipice when we start censoring books and reading.
So, pick up a book and read today. It doesn’t matter what genre or heat level, just read. You’ll be supporting hard-working authors and it’s a great way to take a break.
What’s your favorite book and/or genre? Answer in the box below. I’d love to hear what you’re reading.
When Souls Unite
Two become one
When souls unite
The connection is pure
Such beautiful delight.
Of total devoted love
Proves to us both
That the Lord is above.
It was God’s plan
That two become one
The perfection of two
Is how God wanted it done.
There’s an old saying: A marriage is like a triangle and the three partners are God and two people. You can’t have unconditional love without God and you can’t love each other fully without trusting in God.
When I was single, I prayed to God every day for Him to send me the man I was supposed to be with and for Him to give me the courage to recognize him when he arrived in my life. God upheld His part of the deal but me, not so much. In fact, it took three times for me to recognize MR N as my beloved (thank goodness MR N is a patient man).
The truth is that I loved God first and I believe that’s how it’s supposed to be. In order for me to fully love MR N, I had to have a deep, spiritual love for God. I still do. My spiritual love for God is never-ending and grows deeper every year.
Instead of a triangle, I envision my love relationship with God and MR N as a circle. There is no beginning and no end; it’s continuous. God instills love in our hearts and He fills us with Light every single day.
No matter who you are or what your beliefs are, we are all spiritual beings and we all crave oneness with the Universe. Every connection/relationship we make, our souls rejoice. We’re on a path to enlightenment and sometimes the journey is fraught with obstacles.
Follow your inner light and it will never steer you wrong.
** When I mention God, I’m referring to a Higher Being. He/She goes by many names and feel free to insert His/Her name whenever you read God in this piece. **
“Pets are humanizing. They remind us we have an obligation and responsibility to preserve and nurture and care for all life.” — James Cromwell
On My Wedding Day (Wedding Vows)
On my wedding day, I’m honored to be here
In front of friends, family and God, with my soul mate by my side.
I often thought I’d walk the long road of life alone.
I was ready to give up on love, then the miracle happened, you can back to me.
Joelle, you’re my beautiful angel.
I’m so lucky and blessed this day, I’m marrying the girl of my dreams.
My heart’s beating so fast, I’m so full of love for you.
You’re my best friend, my soul mate, my life partner, for now and eternity.
I just want to thank you for being mine.
And thank God for letting me have this, my perfect dream come true.
You, Joelle, as my wife.
I love you.
Best friends are one of life’s greatest treasures.
We’ve all had best friends, those people who know all our faults and love us anyway. They’re there for us in time of need, whether it is to hold us when we cry or laugh with us at something amusing.
I remember in high school I had a best friend. Her name was Beth. She and I became best friends in the 11th grade. She was a very popular girl and I … wasn’t. I was shy and more of the quiet, creative, brainy type. But that didn’t matter to her. We didn’t hang out with her friends or mine; we hung out together. I slept over at her house quite a bit and she drove us to school in the morning.
She was having trouble with something (forgive me for not recalling what it was exactly) and I was trying to encourage her. She turned to me on the couch and said, “You know you’re my best friend, right?”
I nodded and smiled.
“You’re mine, too.”
“I’ve never met anyone like you before,” she spoke softly. “You’d love me, even if I confessed to you that I pooped in my bed.”
“Sure,” I began. “Just don’t ask me to clean it up.”
We laughed and went back to the show we were watching.
That’s what best friends do. We love each other, no matter what.
I’m so lucky because when I met MR N, we became friends first. We soon became best friends and then fell in love. MR N is my best friend and even though we’re married, I know I can confess my hidden feelings/thoughts and he won’t judge me. He loves me, warts and all.
Whether your best friend is your mate or someone else, give them a hug and tell them:
❤ MRS N ❤
A Father’s Love
A little girl torn from her daddy,
A daddy blocked at every turn,
An unconditional love that burned bright.
I love you daddy, she whispered into the night air.
I love you too, my angel, he whispers back.
Neither can hear the other but both smile.
Their love transcends the distance.
A woman now, she feels her daddy’s love,
Wrapping around her, protecting her.
She cannot see his ghostly face,
But knows he is with her always.
Nothing can separate them now.
The truth has set them both free.
Free to love each other as was destined.
Free to be her daddy’s angel,
Free to be her daddy, now and forever.
© 2008 N. N. Light, All rights reserved
I continue my tour through love by talking about the love between a father and a daughter. I wrote this poem back in 2008 and in it I delve into the relationship I share with my father.
A father’s love is strong and true. He guides his children to live a purposeful life, full of hard work and integrity. He’s the example of what it means to be a man.
Like yesterday, please take a moment and give your father/dad a call, text, email, etc. Three words is all it takes: I love you. Don’t delay because you never know when you’ll wake up and he’ll be gone forever. Don’t live with the regret that I live with.
The Love of Family
It’s something we both have
We’ve been so lucky
It’s joyous beyond compare.
I saw it in your time with your mom
I know you see it in mine too
When I’m around my mom.
It’s another blessed reason
Why our union is so divine
I love you my angel
I’m so glad you’re mine.
The bond between a mother and her child is strong and this love is like nothing else in the world. It is hard to describe except to say this is one of the examples of unconditional love.
A mother gives everything she has (and then some) to her child. She protects her child with her life and I pity the fool who messes with her child. I liken it to a mama bear protecting her cubs. Motherhood is a daily decision each and every day to love your child unconditionally and to see the best in them. It’s something that should never be taken lightly.
It’s this love that both MR N and I brought to our marriage. Our mothers were so proud of us when we got married because they could see the love we share. It was a special moment to have both of our mums there to witness our wedding and our happiness. Our mothers’ love gave us the strength and confidence to love each other.
Take a moment and call, text, tweet, contact your mum. Say hi and share your gratitude for her love. She helped shape you into the beautiful person you’ve become.
Memories of Coming Home
The excitement of you
At our wedding site
The constant smile
On your pretty face.
The roaring fire
The bright shining stars
Holding you closely
Under the moon’s glowing rays.
Sharing you with my family
With joy in my heart
Sleeping in a tiny bed
Feeling closer than ever
Never to part.
Family love: open, honest, caring and unconditional.
Family love is one of the strongest bonds we have. Whether it’s biological family or people who know us best, families love one another.
I can remember when I was first introduced to MR N’s family. It was the day after Valentine’s Day and I was petrified. I grew up an only child and never had any brothers or sisters. MR N has two brothers and one sister. They took me in as an adoptive sibling and made me feel part of the family. It was a secret dream come true because I’ve always wanted siblings.
I know that families are a challenge and we don’t always get along. My own side of the family is complicated and fraught with issues. But I love each of them, in my own way. Even if they aren’t reflecting unconditional love, I am and that’s all that matters.
Love one another and embrace your family.
The Value of Love
We both worry about money
About how we will live.
In the end
We should strive
To recognize the value of our love.
We work hard on our budget
Overlooking how our Lord Jesus
Has given us THE gift
The total power of our love.
What’s the value of love?
It’s more precious than all the gold, silver and money in the world.
I’m horrible with numbers, budgets and finances. When I was single, I lived paycheck to paycheck, racking up debt. I tried to save and work within a budget, really I did. But then I’d see a cute pair of shoes and I’d have to have them. Cha-ching, on the credit card.
MR N loves numbers, budgets and finances. His favorite thing to do is figuring out taxes. He digs in, reading up on the new tax laws and is just like a kid at Christmas.
When we got engaged in 2004, we pooled our finances together. Me with my wild spending and him with the tight budget. You’d think we’d be fighting every night. I didn’t want to end up like my married friends and family, always fighting over money. We agreed that he’d be in charge of all the finances and we’d talk about everything money-wise. A great compromise and it allowed me to be free from worrying about money.
The poem above speaks of our working through our money issues before we were married and it speaks to my heart again this morning. It’s tax time and we got hit with a huge tax bill (we did our taxes last night). We owe more money than we thought and it was a panic moment for me. But MR N knows me and calmed me down.
“It’s all going to be okay, my love.”
He came up with a plan and now we’re ready to take it on.
The power of love.
Love is powerful. Love is healing. Love can break through any obstacle and is stronger than anything imaginable.
Love one another without prejudice, ulterior motive or condition. Watch the power of love transform another life.
Has love changed your life? Share in the comments below.
February is Love Month on the POTL Blog. Every Inspiration Thought will be about love (not just romantic either). Be inspired and spread love.
When faced with obstacles, do you pray for shelter or do you put on your armor and conquer them?
Fear is a very real thing and for me, it’s something I struggle with on a daily basis. As a writer, blogger and author, fear and doubt like to camp in my heart.
Am I good enough?
Will people respond in a positive way to what I’m writing?
Why do I even bother?
Throughout history, there’s been a slew of people who, even though they were filled with fear, did what was necessary for the greater good. Armies rose up, heroes stood up for what was right and the world watched in amazement.
Fear freezes us, makes us stagnant and we don’t have a chance to grow.
This year, I’m going to face fear head-on and challenge it to a duel. Sure, there may be set-backs and disappointments but I’m moving forward.
How about you?
Instead of praying for sanctuary from fear and doubt, pray for courage and strength to confront fear and doubt.
Together, we can conquer anything!
Today is my father’s birthday. If he was still alive, he’d be celebrating his 68th birthday. My thoughts are filled with him so I thought I’d talk about the greatest gift he’s ever given me.
From the time I was born, my father has sung me, “Shine On, You Crazy Diamond” by Pink Floyd. It’s our song, so to speak, and he always whispered in my ear:
“You’re my diamond, daughter, the very best the world has ever seen. Shine bright and let the world see your light.”
No matter what was going on in my life, he believed in me. When I messed up or failed miserably, he’d brush me off and tell me to keep moving forward. Even when people tried to keep us apart, my father stuck by and loved me. His last words before he died, I imagine, included me.
The greatest gift my father gave me was his unconditional love and belief in me.
Happy Birthday, Daddy! I know you’re looking down on me in Heaven and singing our song. I miss you so much my heart aches. Nothing can separate us now. I’m carrying on your legacy and keeping your memory alive.
Life is fleeting, people. Tell your loved ones how much they mean to you for you never know when they’ll be taken from you. Call, email, send a carrier pigeon, do whatever you can to let them know how much you love them.
Shine On, You Crazy Diamond
Remember when you were young,
You shone like the sun.
Shine on you crazy diamond.
Now there’s a look in your eyes,
Like black holes in the sky.
Shine on you crazy diamond.
You were caught on the crossfire
Of childhood and stardom,
Blown on the steel breeze.
Come on you target for faraway laughter,
Come on you stranger, you legend, you martyr, and shine!
You reached for the secret too soon,
You cried for the moon.
Shine on you crazy diamond.
Threatened by shadows at night,
And exposed in the light.
Shine on you crazy diamond.
Well you wore out your welcome
With random precision,
Rode on the steel breeze.
Come on you raver, you seer of visions,
Come on you painter, you piper, you prisoner, and shine!
We all want to be wise.
But how do we gain wisdom? It’s not like a foreign language where we can take a class.
Wisdom is acquired through experience.
Read the quote above and ask yourself, “Am I able to discern truth from falsehood?”
If so, then you’re wise. If not, then you need to gather the tools to help you discover truth in every situation.
I’m blessed by having a sixth sense, kind of like Spiderman. When something is not truthful, my spidey-sense goes off. Whether I act upon my sense is totally up to me.
The first point of wisdom is to discern that which is false; the second to know that which is true.
Be wise, my friends.
Are you attracting what you want most in your life?
The key to the laws of attraction is gratitude for what you already have.
We all have wants and dreams. But in order to achieve them, we have to show the Universe gratitude for what we’ve been given.
Five years ago, MR N wanted out of the restaurant industry. Burned out and frustrated, he went looking for a new career where he could use his organizational skills as well as his education (Masters in History). He landed in the coin collecting industry and has never looked back.
Today, he has moved up in the company, not to mention his second career as an entrepreneur and author.
How did he get here?
He (and I) are grateful for everything. We thank the Universe every single day for our blessings and each other. We’re humble and help others whenever possible. We spread the Light and purge darkness wherever we go.
It’s all about gratitude.
If you want certain things/dreams, you’ve gotta be grateful for what you have. The Universe won’t heap more blessings on you unless you give thanks for what It’s already given you.
Follow the quote above and watch as the Universe provides.
What are you grateful for? Share in the comments below.
Kindness isn’t like the flu shot; you need to incorporate it into your daily life.
I get asked a lot, “How can you be kind all the time? Isn’t it exhausting?”
The truth of the matter is that kindness is a part of myself, like an arm or leg. Through daily acts of kindness, I’ve made it a habit and it’s something I don’t even think about anymore. But it wasn’t always like that.
I can remember a time when I weighed everything I did by what it would get me in return. I loved to be loved. I did someone a favor expecting a favor in return. I gave money away to get it back in return. Everything I did was calculated into an invisible ledger. Kindness didn’t even factor into my life, and I was an important member of my church.
Then I met Jack. He was a co-worker at the bookstore I was managing. He and I got along great. We hung out all the time after work and one day he invited me to go with him to a “thing”. I wasn’t sure what it was but I said sure. He gave me directions and I met him. I looked up at the sign and it said:
Rainbow Outreach: Free to be Yourself
Hugs Free of Charge
It was a safe haven for LGTB youth and young adults. I had never been to one before and truth be told, I almost bolted.
What am I doing here? Sure, I believe in equal rights and the gay/lesbian lifestyle but what can I do?
Jack waved for me to come in from the window. It was too late to run. So I decided to stay for a few minutes, for Jack’s sake. What harm could it do?
I spent the next few hours there and it totally changed my outlook on life and kindness. These kids were like me and had troubles and insecurities, too. They were looking to be loved but didn’t expect anything in return. The biggest thing they taught me was to be kind, to each other and to perfect strangers. They took me in and made me feel loved without expecting love in return.
From that moment on, I chucked my invisible ledger and tried to incorporate kindness into my routine. I started small, opening doors for people, smiling and saying good morning, that kind of thing. It was hard at first because there are mean-spirited people in the world and they would take advantage of my kindness. I wanted to last out at them but I didn’t. I just poured on more kindness.
Kindness is a good habit to form and the results are impressive. Being kind to others takes getting used to but soon it will come natural to you, like breathing.
Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust and hostility to evaporate.
Make kindness a habit.
Love, in its purest form, is loving the monster inside just as much as loving the angel.
Mr. N is reading a book right now and has come to a touchy subject: trust and love. The character (we’ll call him Jim) is a conflicted man. He’s had his share of betrayal and loss. He’s in a relationship with a loving, caring woman yet he doesn’t trust her. He goes so far as to hire a private detective to follow her around. He just knows she’s cheating on him. He feels guilty about it and when the report comes in the mail, he refuses to open it. Overcome with guilt, he tells her what he did. His defense: but I didn’t open it.
She’s angry, hurt and leaves him. As she’s walking out the door, she says in so many words:
“Love without trust isn’t love at all; you can’t have one without the other.”
Truer words haven’t been spoken. Trust and Love are interconnected. You can’t love without trust and you can’t trust without love.
When I was in my early twenties, I let my insecurities rule my heart. Jealousy waged war in every single relationship I was in. I needed constant affirmations and when push came to shove, my jealousy drove them away. I simply didn’t trust them.
Trust can be scary but then so is love. It means leaving yourself exposed to rejection, pain, anger and loneliness. But it also opens you up to love, peace, joy and happiness.
I opened myself up to MR N and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. Sure, it’s scary but the love we share, the unadulterated joy we feel, is the best thing in the world. We walk hand-in-hand through life letting trust and love guide our path.
Let unconditional love rule your heart and follow this mantra:
I love you. That means I’m not just here for the pretty parts. I’m here no matter what.
Are you ready to be a Kindness Ambassador?
All over the world, there’s people spewing hatred, fear and tyranny. It’s ugly and makes me sad.
Where’s the love, kindness and peace?
The only way to fight darkness is to spread Light. Counter hatred with love. Smack down fear with kindness.
Spread kindness to everyone, especially the unkind ones. They need it most.
Instead of ignoring unkind people, be kind to them. They need it most, anyway. It doesn’t cost you anything and you’ll leave those unkind people scratching their heads in disbelief.
The world is looking for a few good men and women to spread kindness. Who’s with me?
Are you dealing with a life-altering change that came out of nowhere?
I can relate. I’ve been there and so has Buffy.
One of my favorite television shows of all time is Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Every episode is filled with scary monsters but also real life. Buffy is a normal teenage girl, except for the fact that she’s a vampire slayer. Every week, she must balance two lives: her teenage life (what, grounded again?) and her slayer life (you couldn’t go suck on some other town?).
The above quote is one of my favorite all-time quotes from Buffy. It talks about something we can all deal with: big moments. Joss nailed it when he said that even if we see it coming, we’re not prepared.
Lose a job, spouse, friend, lover?
Confronted with a moral dilemma and not sure what to do?
It doesn’t matter what the big moment is; what counts is what we do afterwards.
Whether we stand tall or cower in the corner, our actions/motivations show the world who we are.
So the next time a big moment arrives, pause and dig deep in yourself and ask:
What would Buffy do?
No, I’m kidding. That only works for me. 😉
Meditate/Pray/Reflect on who you are and how this big moment can, in the long run, make you a better person. We’re all molded clay and each big moment is the potter’s hands creating a masterpiece (us).
I’m a big fan of Kasey Musgraves and a lyric from one of her songs really resonates with me.
“Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy.”
In the song, she talks about how people need to do their own thing and not be so concerned about other people’s business.
We can all relate to this, can’t we?
There’s always people in our circle of influence (family, friends, neighbors, etc.) who seem to stick their nose in everyone’s business. They may say they’re only being helpful but in all reality, they’re being nosy.
A simple life motto, this lyric is, isn’t it?
Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy.
I’m going to adopt this motto for my own life. I’m minding my own biscuits and life is pretty delicious!
Join me and get ready to savor life!
Laughing at ourselves is the first step in maturity.
I remember the last time I laughed at myself. It was an insanely busy day (read stressful) and I was making dinner. I was buttering bread and I accidentally put peanut butter on the bread instead of butter. I was halfway through buttering when I realized what happened. I started laughing and MR N came into the kitchen to see what was going on. We both had a good laugh and I even said through peals of laughter:
“Nothing goes with your homemade turkey pot pie like a peanut butter sandwich.”
Laughing at ourselves is not only a sign of maturity but much needed. We take life so seriously and at times, we have to just let go and laugh. We’ve all made little mistakes, especially when we’re tired and/or stressed. It’s better for our sanity to laugh at ourselves than berate us.
When was the last time you laughed at yourself?
Go ahead and laugh. It’s funny. If you can’t laugh at yourself, you’re too serious. Loosen up and giggle.
You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself.
“I have decided to love.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
Today is Martin Luther King day in the United States. For those of you who may not know your history, Martin Luther King Jr. was the leader of the Civil Rights Movement in the 1960’s. He believed the time had come for all men (and women) to have the same rights and freedoms, as dictated in the Constitution. He was a peaceful man and was assassinated April 4, 1968.
He’s one of my historical heroes, not because he fought for what was right and just but because he didn’t hold hate in his heart. He loved everyone, even those who hated him and ultimately killed him. His message still applies today:
“I have decided to love. If you are seeking the highest good, I think you can find it through love.”
While it pains me to look around the world and see oppression, violence and hate, I know Martin Luther King’s dream is still possible. It’s possible to love your neighbor as yourself, to love your enemy and to spread love throughout the world.
How about you? Are you ready to be the embodiment of love?
Join with me and decide to love. Banish hate from your heart and let love rule in its place.
Thank you, Martin Luther King Jr., for being a guiding Light and for teaching us to love.
We all could learn these life lessons from Einstein. I’m concentrating on #6.
Which one will you focus on today and going forward?
Share in the comments below.
Are you missing out on opportunities without even realizing it?
A friend of mine is always saying she wants to be an author but is waiting on God to guide her. She prays and prays but sits by while opportunity after opportunity passes her by.
“I just don’t know if this is the right thing for me.”
I shake my head because she doesn’t realize she’s dismissing the very thing she’s praying over.
Listen, opportunities present themselves every single day. It’s up to us to seize them or like the quote above states, “If you wait too long, you miss them.”
Are you waiting too long?
Don’t! Grab ahold of opportunity and see what happens. I know it can be scary and your mind is filled with doubt. You’ll never know what could be in your future if you don’t take the first step.
What opportunities are presenting themselves to you? Share in the comments below.
Opportunities are like sunrises. If you wait too long, you miss them.