Psst, happiness is found within through the simple act of gratitude.
I’ve been told by several people throughout the years that happiness is a journey and you’ll be happy when you do ___________ (fill in the blank). Whether it’s finding the right man/woman, marriage, children, house, career, income threshold, I’ll be successful once I do it. I took their advice and was very unhappy. I could’ve saved myself a lot of trouble if I had taken the following to heart:
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
It’s sound advice and a lesson I learned recently. Happiness comes from within and by being grateful for everything (even the bad stuff), peace and contentment flow in my veins. I’m most happy when I’m sitting out on the solarium with my beloved Mr. N, holding hands while watching the trees and birds.
Find your happy place, no matter where it is, and visit it daily. Meditate/Pray over various parts of your life and be grateful. Appreciate everything/everyone in your life and recognize you are truly blessed. Happiness will bloom inside you. I know it sounds corny but it’s true. The simple act of gratitude brings happiness to the forefront of your mind.
Happiness doesn’t come from some adventure (like in Lord of the Rings) but it comes from reminding ourselves what we have already in our lives.
Did you wake up this morning with a never-ending list of things to accomplish?
I did and let me tell you, the stress lapped at my feet. I have so much to do that I was uneasy. But then I came across this graphic and it gave me pause. Good thoughts… can they really help? I shrugged and tried it. You know what? The stress left me and I feel ready to take on this mountain of tasks!
People underestimate the power of positive thinking but I’m proof-positive that it works. Good thoughts, no matter what they deal with, are a great way to combat stress. Simply telling yourself, “I am beautiful.” or “I can make it through.” or “I can do this.” makes a huge difference and makes your skin glow. A total win-win!
Go ahead and try it for yourself. You’ll soon see your stress leaving and you’ll feel better instantly. 🙂
Looking for ways to attract positive things/people to your life?
Feel grateful for all you have, even the bad stuff.
I know that sounds like a weird concept but it’s totally true. Everything in your life, from the good to the bad, is a blessing. The obstacles are your training ground for what’s to come. Every victory is another feather in your cap. Both the good and the bad shape you into who you are.
So today and every day, give thanks for another day on the Earth and for everything in your life. It’ll attract positive things and people to you, like a magnet. Focus on the positive and the Universe will flock to your sunbeams of Light.
Today is the first day of summer. The Summer Solstice has been celebrated for thousands of years around the globe. We welcome summer with open arms, relishing the warmer weather and give thanks for making it through another hard winter.
In honor of Summer Solstice, let’s make a vow to be kinder to others. Do good, help someone in need, show kindness and it will come back to you in unexpected ways.
“When the sun is shining I can do anything; no mountain is too high, no trouble too difficult to overcome.” -Wilma Rudolph
Is disappointment causing your heart to hurt and stealing your happiness?
We all deal with disappointments. Work, school, family, friends all disappoint us at one time or another. But the easiest way to deal with disappointment is to not expect anything.
I see you scratching your head but stick with me for a moment and you’ll soon understand what I’m talking about.
When I first agreed to marry MR N, I had a bunch of high expectations. I thought life was going to be like a trip through Oz, all happy and carefree. I expected certain things from my family and when they disappointed me, I was crushed. I cried on MR N’s shoulder. Then he gave me some sage advice.
“Expect nothing and you’ll be blessed. When you have no expectations and something good happens, it’ll be a happy surprise. When you expect good things to happen and they don’t, you’ll be miserable.”
Since that day, I’ve tried to not have expectations. Sure, I slip now and again; I’m human. But as a rule, I don’t expect anything in return. I’m kind to be kind, not to get kindness in return. I love others, not to be loved in return but because it’s a part of me.
Tip of the day: Have no expectations and be blessed.
After more than forty years, I’m finally comfortable in my own skin. I look at myself in the mirror and I like what I see. I’m still working on areas but my first thought isn’t to call myself ugly or fat. I’m healthy and so grateful to my body. Without it, I’d be nowhere.
Listen, we all have days when we don’t look or feel our best. But that’s not a reason to put down your body. Your body works hard and you should take care of it. One way to do that is to be kind to it. Give it some love and positive compliments.
Being comfortable in your own skin isn’t selfish or conceited. You’re not boasting; you’re loving yourself. It’s like putting on your favorite pair of jeans… you’re relaxed, cozy and feel good.
Instead of berating yourself for all the things wrong, take comfort in your body and who you are. Self-love is so important to your everyday health and it promotes an inner peace you can’t get anyplace else.
Back in my teen years, I was such a negative person. The Universe was against me, or so I thought, and I complained about anything and everything. It didn’t make me feel better and I truly believe that because I magnified the negative, bad things/people latched onto me.
More than 20 years later, I’m much more positive. I see my world in a brighter light, projecting my blessings instead of the crap that may or may not happen. You know what? I’m much more happier.
When we focus on the positives in our lives, instead of the negatives, we’re happier and healthier. Our perspectives are open to the possibilities and not closed off.
Today, magnify your blessings instead of your disappointments. Be thankful for all in your life, instead of what you don’t have. Your gratitude will have a huge impact, not only on your own personal views but on the world around you.
Our lives are scheduled down to the last second. We’re so busy with work, family, activities, sports, etc. but I’m here with a very important question.
Are you making time for what matters?
This week has been chaotic for me. Between work, our business, household duties and family obligations, I’ve run myself ragged. My feet are swollen, my back aches and I’m exhausted. One thing has gotten me through this week: quality time with MR N. Every night, we sit together on the love seat and watch tv/dvds. I curl up next to him, close my eyes and take deep breaths. I let everything go from the day and just soak up MR N’s love.
No matter what’s going on in your life or how busy you may be, make time for what matters. It may be quality time by yourself, your significant other, your best friend, your pet, your kids; what counts is carving out time to be with that someone.
Make an appointment in your planner and never cancel. Prioritize your time so you can spend precious moments with what matters to you. It’ll be your oasis, trust me.
Make time for what matters… your very life may just depend on it.
Spring is here, the snow is melting away and many of us are prepping our garden for planting. There’s debris to clear away and soil needs to have added nutrients for optimum performance.
Your heart is like your garden. What you concentrate on, whether it’s hatred, fear, love or kindness, blooms in your heart.
Maybe it’s time to do some spring cleaning in your heart. Clear away the resentment and anger. Come to terms with what you can and can’t control. Stare fear in the face and let it know you won’t be its slave. Weed out all the negative thoughts and feelings, making room for the seedlings of hope, peace, happiness and joy.
One of the people who inspires me is my aunt. After going through a bitter divorce, she worked full-time while putting herself through nursing school in the evenings. We call her wild and crazy Aunti and she loves that name. She taught me to live life fully, enjoy every minute and make your own dreams come true.
Do you have a wild and crazy Aunti in your life? Let them inspire you and then pass along that inspiration to others. Life can be difficult and as my Aunti says, “You never know what a person’s really like unless they’re up to their neck in shite.” Our true personality comes out in the most dire circumstances.
Read the quote above and then take a moment to let the people who inspire you know how grateful you are to have them in your life.
St. Patrick’s Day is this Friday so I thought it would be appropriate to feature inspiring quotes by Irish writers all week. Today’s inspiring quote is from Edwin Hubbel Chapin. While he did not live in Ireland, his family descended from Ireland.
Did you know that every action/thought in your life vibrates tenfold in the Universe?
Think about it for a minute. Every kind thought you have, every act of kindness you do, reverberates throughout the Universe creating a chain reaction. The same can be said for negative thoughts and actions. Whoa, that makes you feel very powerful, doesn’t it?
You and I are powerful creatures and with that power comes responsibility. We have the power to change lives for good or evil and our influence is most potent in the lives of our corner of the world. Through smiling and saying a compliment to the person serving us coffee or our co-workers, we’re starting a positive chain reaction. By giving of ourselves, we’re sewing seeds that’ll bloom into gratitude flowers which will spread joy to many.
Every action in our lives touches on some chord that will vibrate in eternity.
Spread kindness, gratitude and Light today and every day. Help one another and celebrate life. Encourage those who are struggling and rejoice in each other’s triumphs.
Today we’re going to talk about love of the outdoors.
I love being outside. I think it stems from my nature walks I used to take with my mom. We didn’t have a lot of money when I was young but that didn’t stop us from having grand adventures.
Every Saturday morning, we’d head out to the library. We’d spend most of the morning reading books and deciding which books to check out. In the afternoon, if the weather allowed us, we’d go for a nature hike. We’d listen to the birds singing, try to identify various flowers and trees, explore new paths and have a terrific time. She’d teach me about the importance of nature and the world around us.
Those memories molded me into the nature-loving person I am today. Every morning, I go outdoors for my walk. When my to-do list is overwhelming and work’s stressing me out, a walk outside helps center myself. I watch the leaves rustle in the breeze, listen to the birds singing and become one with nature.
Do you have a favorite activity you love doing outdoors? I’d love to hear so share in the comments below.
No matter what you have going on today, take a moment or two and get outside. Go for a walk or take a bike ride. Commune with nature and give thanks for the beauty of the outdoors.
“There is a lot that happens around the world we cannot control. We cannot stop earthquakes, we cannot prevent droughts, and we cannot prevent all conflict, but when we know where the hungry, the homeless and the sick exist, then we can help.” — Jan Schakowsky
How’s your love meter this month? Is it off the charts or dwindling after the high of Valentine’s Day?
Love is something we express every day of the year, not just on special holidays like Valentine’s Day. Love for yourself, your loved ones, love for those fortunate, etc. are all residing in your heart, ready to unleash on the world.
Let me ask you a serious question. Do you love those less fortunate?
As humans, we have a natural ability and need for community. We all want to belong, to be a part of something special, something meaningful. Today, more than ever, we crave community. But what about those less fortunate? Don’t they deserve to belong, too?
I read a disturbing article yesterday talking about how even though the need for food banks is at an all-time high, donations are down severely. We’re big supporters of food banks, both in Canada and America. We talk about how important it is to feed people and how every child deserves to be fed. But we need your help; we can’t do it alone.
This month is commonly known as Love month so I’m begging you to take your love for community and go donate food/clothing/toys/money/time at your local food bank/pantry/shelter. Together, we can help those in need.
Read the quote above and ask yourself, “How can I help?” Then go and do it. Love for the less fortunate is an unconditional love and it truly is an act of charity.
The bond between a mother and her child is strong and this love is like nothing else in the world. It is hard to describe except to say this is one of the examples of unconditional love.
A mother gives everything she has (and then some) to her child. She protects her child with her life and I pity the fool who messes with her child. I liken it to a mama bear protecting her cubs. Motherhood is a daily decision each and every day to love your child unconditionally and to see the best in them. It’s something that should never be taken lightly.
It’s this love that both MR N and I brought to our marriage. Our mothers were so proud of us when we got married because they could see the love we share. It was a special moment to have both of our mums there to witness our wedding and our happiness. Our mothers’ love gave us the strength and confidence to love each other.
Take a moment and call, text, tweet, contact your mum. Say hi and share your gratitude for her love. She helped shape you into the beautiful person you’ve become.
Are you attracting what you want most in your life?
The key to the laws of attraction is gratitude for what you already have.
We all have wants and dreams. But in order to achieve them, we have to show the Universe gratitude for what we’ve been given.
Five years ago, MR N wanted out of the restaurant industry. Burned out and frustrated, he went looking for a new career where he could use his organizational skills as well as his education (Masters in History). He landed in the coin collecting industry and has never looked back.
Today, he has moved up in the company, not to mention his second career as an entrepreneur and author.
How did he get here?
He (and I) are grateful for everything. We thank the Universe every single day for our blessings and each other. We’re humble and help others whenever possible. We spread the Light and purge darkness wherever we go.
It’s all about gratitude.
If you want certain things/dreams, you’ve gotta be grateful for what you have. The Universe won’t heap more blessings on you unless you give thanks for what It’s already given you.
Follow the quote above and watch as the Universe provides.
What are you grateful for? Share in the comments below.
American Thanksgiving is tomorrow and while we have already celebrated our Thanksgiving up here in Canada, MR N and myself would like to invite you to our table. We’ve saved a place at our table for you (see picture above).
Now that everyone is seated, let’s go around the table, give thanks and count our blessings. Counting our blessings is a superb way to not only think positive but with a clear perspective. Life’s challenges seem a little bit smaller when we concentrate on how many blessings we have. I’ll start:
I’m alive. You may laugh but I have gone through many close calls and am blessed to be alive.
Roof over my head and food to eat. So many people in America and Canada are hungry and don’t have enough food to eat. We’re proud to donate to our local food bank/pantry and we’re doing our part to end hunger.
Unconditional love. MR N is my rock and the love of my life. He taught me the true meaning of love. Together, we travel through this great, big world and nothing can stop us.
Family and Friends. I am blessed beyond belief to have an extended family and friends network who love me for me and their support is amazing.
Online Family/Friends/Followers. Through the internet, I have such a wide group of like-minded people who support me, my writing, this blog, our author promotions business and so much more. This includes everyone reading this post: THANK YOU!
Health and Wellness. There have been times when my health was unstable and my spiritual wellness was a code blue. I’m thankful for my health (both physical, emotional and spiritual) and never take it for granted.
Laughter and Sense of Humor. I’m so blessed to have a funny bone and to be able to laugh at myself. Humor has been my stress-buster for neigh on forty years and I’m so grateful to everyone who has made me chuckle, laugh and chortle.
Where I Live. I’m blessed to live in a free country where I can speak my mind and no one is going to murder me for walking down the street. I pray for all those who are in jeopardy.
Faith/Spirituality. I’m so blessed to have a strong faith and every day I’m thankful I can share the Light with everyone.
A Father’s Love. I’m blessed to have a father to loves me so much, even from Heaven. My father passed away in 1998 but I still feel his presence as he hugs me.
My Creativity. I’m an artist and I love to create. Whether it’s stories, baked goods, inspirational thoughts of encouragement, I create. It gives me such joy.
Collection of Books/Movies/Music. I’m so blessed to have quite a massive collection of books, movies and music. No matter what’s going on, I can close my eyes and escape.
It’s your turn now. Share a few of your blessings in the comments below.
What do you do when you encounter someone saying no?
I have met a lot of people who’ve said no to me. As a writer, I encounter a lot of no. It’s part of the business, so they say. Do I let it get me down? Do I quit this whole writing gig? NO! It teaches me patience to keep going.
4 Things I am Thankful for Today:
-I am thankful to my second grade teacher who said I couldn’t draw a dinosaur like I did. He taught me to fall in love with art of all mediums and to not listen to critics.
-I am thankful for all the men who broke my heart and said no to me. That led me straight into the arms of my beloved MR N and I am eternally happy! 😉
-I am thankful for all the managers/bosses who said I wasn’t good enough and would be stuck in the job for a lifetime. They nudged me to living out my dream job of being a full-time writer.
-I am thankful to all the people who said I couldn’t do something because I was a girl/woman. I have proven that anyone can do anything if they set their mind and heart to it!
When dealing with adversity, what are you thankful for? Do you have a tough boss, teacher, co-worker, friend, family member or a stranger telling you no?
Don’t get mad at them for not being able to see the greatness in you. Instead, use that as inspiration to be like Wayne Dyer and do it yourself! Who knows what inventions you will create?
Did you wake up this morning feeling good or dreading getting out of bed?
If I was 100% honest, I didn’t want to get out of bed this morning. I wanted to snuggle deep under our warm comforter and sleep longer. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized I have so much to be grateful for.
I have a warm bed to sleep in.
I have a man who loves me for who I am, even when I act silly.
I have a roof over my head and food to eat.
I love my job and even when the stress is driving me round the bend, I wouldn’t want to be doing anything else.
I nearly bounced like Tigger out of bed, ready to get started.
Gratitude can change your perspective, just like that. It has the potential to make dreary days filled with sunshine. Joy is knocking on your heart, ready to purge sadness from your spirit.
Try it. Go on, I double-dog dare you. 😉
Write down five things you’re grateful for and repeat the list at least three times today. Pay close attention to what happens and your response to what life throws at you.
Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.
Every once in awhile, our inner fire (Light) dims and almost appears to go out. The darkness surrounds us and we’re not sure what to do. We’re feeling sad, depressed, just plain discouraged. Then, a brief encounter happens and that person’s fire (Light) rekindles our own.
I’ve had this happen on several occasion but the most recent one was a brief encounter with author C. S. Boyack. I was working with him on a character interview. I decided to have it be Lisbeth (big bad from Princess of the Light). My writing fire had dimmed and I wasn’t writing. In fact, I had almost ditched the whole series. C. S. ignited something inside me and I’m happy to report that I’m back to writing book two in the Princess of the Light series.
I’ve already thanked and thanked him for his help. He told me to stop or else his head wouldn’t fit through the front door. lol! I’m so grateful to him (just silently) and others like him.
I bet you have a few people who have rekindled your inner fire at just the right time. Take a moment and reach out to them. Share your gratitude and say thanks.
We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.
Are you surrounding yourself with positive or negative people?
I used to have friends who loved to talk about all that was wrong in their life. They were constantly complaining and the more I was around them, the heavier my heart weighed and the more likely I was to complain about my own life.
It wasn’t until I put some distance between these so-called friends and myself that I realized what was going on. Their negativity held me down and didn’t allow me to grow.
Negative people can weigh you down and even undermine your efforts to be physically, mentally and emotionally healthy.
I love this quote because it illustrates the repercussions of negativity. It’s crucial for us to choose our inner circle of friends who are supportive, positive and lift us up. In order to be healthy in all facets of our life, we must be mindful of the company we keep.
Take a look at your circle of influence. Do they support you and reflect gratitude, love and positivism? If not, maybe it’s time to make a change.
Are you dealing with pain, loss, disappointment, grief, anger?
The past two weeks have kicked me down into the gutter. This flu has dampened my spirit and I’m in need of inspiration. Even the most mundane tasks seem to take forever and I’m exhausted. When I found this quote, I knew exactly what I needed to do.
I closed my eyes, concentrated on what brings me joy and meditated. This is what I concentrated on:
I know it’s no surprise to our followers that the one thing that fills my heart with joy is my beloved. He loves me for me and he encourages me to look at the positive.
Joy, pure unadulterated joy, is the antidote for pain. Do what I do and focus on your joyful moment and it will purge the pain.