#CoverReveal: It’s Not Your Journey (Second Edition) by @BekaLombardo #Memoir #KeepTalkingMH


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Title  It’s Not Your Journey (Second Edition)

Author  Rebecca Lombardo

Genre  Memoir

Book Blurb 

Follow Rebecca Lombardo as she details two years of her twenty-five year battle with mental illness and what brought her to attempt to take her life in 2013. As she recovered from that attempt, she continued to write in the hopes that she would help purge some of the pain in her life. What she never expected was that she could help others as well. This book quite simply began as a blog and became a book; where she opens up about her real and raw emotions during those two years.

Set aside any preconceived notions you may have about what a book should be and put yourself in the shoes of someone struggling daily with a disease she could not control, despite the support of her loving husband. Even with the struggles, Rebecca attempts to offer the reader support and guidance as she begs them not to follow her path.

This book is the true story of one woman that fights a battle inside her mind every single day and attempts to document what she is feeling to help others while she helps herself. This is the second edition of It’s Not Your Journey.

At 44 years of age and happily married for 15 years, Rebecca can finally say that she is on her way to reaching her dream. Not only does she hope to help people that are struggling with depression, she hopes to help everyone realize that you are never too old to find your voice.

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Rebecca Lombardo

Author Biography 

Rebecca Lombardo is 44 years old and has been happily married for 15 years. She lives in Michigan with her husband and cats. She is a published author, a Huffington Post blogger, and a podcast host. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at the age of 19. She has battled that as well as several other conditions for over 20 years. In 2013, she attempted suicide. Grateful that she survived, she decided to tell her story in the hopes that she could help others choose a different path.

Social Media Links

Website www.rebeccalombardo.com

Facebook www.facebook.com/notyourjourney

Twitter www.twitter.com/bekalombardo

Instagram www.instagram.com/bekalombardo

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The Challenges of Being a #Bipolar Author by @BekaLombardo #amwriting #books


I’ve spent many, many years dealing with bipolar disorder.  However, I’ve only spent a year as a bipolar author.  All authors face challenges.  Struggling to be published, meeting deadlines, promoting. I am now of the opinion that those of us dealing with bipolar disorder have a different battle to fight.  On the heels of receiving my very first rude and threatening email about my book, I am facing an even greater challenge.  I have to fight to even continue to put myself out there for this type of scrutiny.  I’m constantly trying to tell myself that if I were to give up, the bullies would win.  I can’t do that.

 

 

Take a book signing for example.  I had one last year and going into it, I was terrified.  I’ve never been good at public speaking to begin with.  When you factor in my anxiety issues, I wasn’t sure I would even get through it.  Thankfully, my husband was next to me the entire time.  I think I pulled it off, but I’m not sure how I would have done had there been more people in attendance.

 

 

We all face issues with confidence.  I’m not so naïve that I don’t understand that.  I feel like authors or writers that are not dealing with mental illness may have a leg up in some areas.  In my situation, I am at a stage where I am rarely leaving my house or even my bedroom. I don’t think someone like James Patterson has to contend with such obstacles.

 

 

In my book, I documented my enormous issues with body image and self-esteem. I’ve always been negative about my appearance. Over the years dealing with my depression, I’ve gained more weight than I ever would have imagined. Dealing with bipolar disorder, weight gain, and the possibility of appearing in photos or on television is incredibly daunting. I did one television interview early on, and I can’t even look at the video at this point. It sends me into a deep depression for days.  Even now that I’m on the right path with my health, and I’m down 27 pounds, I still beat myself up for appearing in front of the camera the way I look.

 

 

For those of us that happen to feel things much deeper than most people, negative reviews are like a sharp knife to your heart. It’s been an arduous task trying to convince myself that just because not everyone likes it, doesn’t mean I’m a failure…or as one person called me, a selfish narcissist. I never in my wildest dreams thought that putting my story out there in an effort to raise awareness about suicide would be met with such comments. I’m simply trying to help people!

 

 

Granted, I’m no Mother Teresa, but I didn’t join this fight to make myself look good. Quite the contrary.  I wanted to use this platform to tell a cautionary tale, so to speak. To let others know that I made many mistakes along the way, but I am certainly much stronger for learning from those mistakes.  Most of all, people need to understand that having a bad day doesn’t mean you have a bad life.

 

 

So, I’ll take comfort in the fact that there are those that support me.  The mental health community is amazing. I love feeling a sense of camaraderie. As if we’re all here, fighting the same battle and hopefully making a difference.  I’ve met some of the most amazing people in the last year.  As much as I struggle with social anxiety and agoraphobia, it’s such a comfort to know that despite those issues, I may still be able to affect change in the world around me.

 

 

Of course, there are days when it’s extremely difficult to keep focused on the positive.  It’s hard to keep focus at all.  That is one of the main reasons I’ve been rather terrified to sign on to any particular website to write a monthly column.  When I’m depressed, all concentration goes out the window.  It feels as if there’s a movie playing inside my brain on fast forward and I have no idea where the remote is.  When writer’s block sets in, I can’t slow my brain down to come up with a sentence, let alone an entire article.  I’m constantly afraid of letting people down or even letting myself down. The idea of being a failure still rests comfortably on my shoulder.  Ever present and always reminding me of the mistakes I’ve made.  I often make an effort to reach out and help others with whatever they’re working on.  At times, it helps to put my situation into perspective.  The next thing I know, I’m writing again.

 

 

I never know when an idea will hit me.  Last night, it was around 1:30 in the morning.  It’s both a curse and a blessing.  While I’m grateful for the opportunity to put pen to paper, I’m sometimes a slave to my expanded consciousness.

 

 

I realize that I have traditionally been way too hard on myself.  I need to give myself credit once in a while.  If I see someone on TV that is an extremely talented artist, musician, or even a writer, that little voice inside my head is very vocal. I’m forever thinking, “I wish I was that good at anything!” I’ve beat myself up for so many years, I’m not sure I would know how to be kind.

 

 

I lack confidence on so many levels.  Poor self-esteem is a symptom of depression, but when will I learn to cut myself some slack? I wrote a book and I got it published, and it’s helping people! I have an extremely successful blog and I feel as if I’ve earned the respect of many others in the mental health community, at least on social media!  So, when do I stop and give myself a little pat on the back? I carry burdens that many people wouldn’t be able to shoulder for very long.  I fight a battle inside my head (and my heart) from the minute I get up in the morning.

 

 

Perhaps now is the time to remember that despite the challenges of being an author and having bipolar disorder, it can be managed.  I just have to be willing to use a little common sense.  I’ve gotten this far.  I think I’ve probably thrown in the towel once a week for nearly a year, and I’m still going.  I didn’t die when it was all I could think about 3 years ago.  I’m a fighter.  I may not always be able to keep that in mind for myself, but I hope I can impart that wisdom onto others that are lacking in the confidence department.  Sometimes it’s OK to just exist.  If you’re facing a challenge due to your mental illness, let it be your moment to shine!  No matter how scary it is, you have to face it head on.  If you can’t be realistic about your situation on Tuesday, give yourself some time.  Maybe on Friday you can knock it out of the park.

 

It's Not Your Journey 

 

Title:  It’s Not Your Journey

Author:  Rebecca Lombardo

Genre:  Memoir, Mental Illness

 

Book Blurb:

In her first published work, Rebecca Lombardo collects her internationally followed blog into the pages of It’s Not Your Journey. This memoir candidly details Rebecca’s two yearlong chronicle of her struggles with bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety, self-injury, and recovery from a suicide attempt. Rebecca shares her real and raw feelings on these subjects, as well as addressing other issues that have contributed to her downward spiral and eventual climb out of her own pit of despair. Issues such as the loss of her mother to lung cancer, the death of her brother, abandonment from friends and family members due to her hospitalization, and more. This book is about my personal journey with mental illness. I am not a professional, rather an advocate that hopes her story can help those going through similar struggles.

 

Excerpt:

PTSD

DECEMBER 26, 2013

 

PTSD is just one of the many symptoms that I deal

with on a daily basis. No, I haven’t been in combat or

seen anyone murdered per se, but that doesn’t make

the condition I have any easier to tolerate. Imagine

that I am standing in the kitchen with my husband for

twenty minutes. I can’t see him, so when he taps me

on the shoulder, I jump a hundred feet.

 

 

All night long I hear noises that sound like someone

screaming or pounding on our front door. Sometimes

when I am driving, I feel like the other cars are

coming directly at me. So, you may wonder what a

person does to cope with this type of anxiety.

I wish I could say that I have an excellent therapist

that talks me through all of it. I do not. However, I do

have Joe, and he is the next best thing.

 

 

The truth is that PTSD is a mental health condition

that affects millions of people around the world and

from all walks of life. Some may develop the condition

due to the memory of a natural disaster, or a

devastating event that rocks their community, for

example a mass shooting. Others become chained by

PTSD through personal traumatic events, the stress

just eats them alive and can impact their everyday life.

 

 

About fifteen years ago, cutting was the only calming

influence in my life. I was a pro. I had a box filled with

about twenty different sharp objects. I even had

certain songs that I played. I know from experience,

there are many people that don’t understand it. It

helps if you think of it as a drug addiction. It calms

you instantly. Then suddenly, just as fast as it takes

the pain away, it gives it back to you three fold. Now

not only do you hurt inside but you hurt on the

outside too.

 

 

Therein lies the vicious cycle of cutting.

Many of us do it to say, “Hello?!?! I am in pain here!”

That is why I did it, and sometimes still do, as sad as

that might be. The irony of a person like me is that I

then cover it up because I don’t want to look like a

freak. So where does it end? It doesn’t. Unless you

make a decision that it has to. One of these days, the

guilt is going to take over. You are going to start

cutting and never stop.

 

 

I am proud to say that I am self-injury free since that

horrible week in June 2013, and this time I plan on

staying that way. I can’t list off any particular coping

mechanism that helps me in any way. I will tell you

this, picture yourself locked away from the outside

world and everything that you love. That will get you

thinking just a bit clearer, believe me. I know I never

want to end up there again. It’s sad that something

like this could still be an issue, but you have to

remember that everyone has a burden that they carry

with them. You may not be able to see it, but know it

is there and try to find it within you to be kind.

 

 

Buy Links: 

Amazon https://www.amzn.com/0692509739

 

 

Rebecca Lombardo

 

Author Biography:

I’m 43 years old and have been very happily married for 15 years. I live in Michigan with my fantastic husband, Joe. We don’t have children, but we have 5 cats that we rescued. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder when I was 19, and I’ve been battling it every day since. I write to give my feelings a voice and to help others that are struggling. That is why I started a blog in 2013 after I survived a suicide attempt. I’m extremely grateful to everyone that helped me realize my dream of becoming a published author. Huffington Post blogger and podcast host.

 

Social Media Links:

Facebook www.facebook.com/notyourjourney

Twitter www.twitter.com/bekalombardo

Website www.rebeccalombardo.com

Blog www.judgmentfreezone2013.blogspot.com

Instagram www.instagram.com/bekalombardo

Instagram www.instagram.com/notyourjourney

 

 

 

 

It’s Not Your Journey by @BekaLombardo is a Must-Read! #Memoir #bookreview #MentalIllness


It's Not Your Journey

 

Title: It’s Not Your Journey

Author: Rebecca Lombardo

Genre: Memoir

 

Book Blurb:

In her first published work, Rebecca Lombardo collects her internationally followed blog into the pages of It’s Not Your Journey. Rebecca shares her struggles with bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety, self-injury, and recovery from a suicide attempt.

 

 

Rebecca candidly reveals her real and raw feelings on these subjects, as well as addressing other issues that have contributed to her downward spiral and eventual climb out of her own pit of despair. Issues such as the loss of her mother to lung cancer, the death of her brother, abandonment from friends and family members due to her hospitalization, and more.

 

 

At 42 years of age and happily married for nearly 14 years, Rebecca can finally say that she is on her way to reaching her dream. Not only does she hope to help people that are struggling with depression, she hopes to help everyone realize that you are never too old to find your voice.

 

My Review:

Rebecca Lombardo is one of the bravest people I have had the pleasure to meet. Not does she battle her mental illness daily but she’s put into words her struggle with depression. I must warn you, this is not a happily ever after story of a woman who battled mental illness and is now peacefully happy like Laura Ingalls Wilder running in a field (Little House on a Prairie); it’s a constant struggle. She doesn’t pull any punches and each chapter is filled with stark truth and pain.

 

Rebecca talks about her family, unconditional love from her husband (who saved her life in my opinion), doctors, how the darkness sucks out the light, cutting, depression and coping mechanisms. Her heart and soul are splashed across the pages, which only makes this book a captivating read. Not since reading Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen, have I read a memoir so gut-wrenchingly candid.

 

Mental illness is a very real medical condition and we, as a society, need to treat it with the same respect as we do cancer. Advocates like Rebecca, bring the realities to light and I, for one, am grateful. This is a must-read and beautifully written!

 

Favorite Quote from the Author:

This book is about MY JOURNEY with Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, Self-Injury, and more. This is not a text book, nor is it your journey. I am not a professional, rather an advocate that hopes her story can help those going through similar struggles

 

Your experiences may be entirely different.  I just ask that you respect that I was in a very difficult situation, and in a lot of pain when these pages were written.  I may not have always made the right decisions, or the decisions you would have made.  But, I did was I had to for me at that time.  All I ask is that you please have some respect for my journey.

 

My Rating:  5+ stars

 

Buy it now:

Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Its-Your-Journey-Rebecca-Lombardo/dp/0692509739

iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/its-not-your-journey/id1065377217?mt=11

Indigo https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/its-not-your-journey/9780692509739-item.html

Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/its-not-your-journey-rebecca-lombardo/1122852005

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/26176772-it-s-not-your-journey

 

Rebecca Lombardo

 

Author Biography:

I’m 43 years old and have been very happily married for 15 years. I live in Michigan with my fantastic husband, Joe. We don’t have children, but we have 5 cats that we rescued. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder when I was 19, and I’ve been battling it every day since. I write to give my feelings a voice and to help others that are struggling. That is why I started a blog in 2013 after I survived a suicide attempt. I’m extremely grateful to everyone that helped me realize my dream of becoming a published author.

 

Social Media Links:

Website www.rebeccalombardo.com

Amazon Author Page www.amzn.com/0692509739

Facebook www.facebook.com/notyourjourney

Twitter www.twitter.com/bekalombardo

Blog www.judgmentfreezone2013.blogspot.com

Google+ https://plus.google.com/u/0/+RebeccaLombardoAuthor

 

Reviewed by: Mrs. N

Meet Author @bekalombardo and Her #Memoir, It’s Not Your Journey #BookPromo #Books


It’s my great pleasure to introduce you to Rebecca Lombardo. I met her a few weeks ago and she is one of the strongest women I have had the pleasure to meet. She’s struggled with mental illness for over two decades and her debut release, It’s Not Your Journey, is her story. She doesn’t consider herself a survivor but a warrior and I agree with her 100%. So, grab your favorite beverage and get to know the Rebecca Lombardo. Take it away, Beka:

 

  • What do you consider your best accomplishment?

Honestly, at this point I am extremely proud that I am still here.  After more than 23 years struggling with mental illness, and surviving a suicide attempt in 2013, I’ve had to fight every day just to be here.

 

  • Have you always liked to write?

Yes, as long as I can remember.  I can recall writing my first story in third grade, and announcing at that point that I was going to be a writer one day.

 

  • Do you read your reviews? Do you respond to them, good or bad? Do you have any advice on how to deal with the bad?

Yes, I read all of my reviews. At first, the bad reviews felt like a personal attack, because the book is about my life.  I responded to 1 or 2 bad reviews, and quite honestly was personally attacked by those people.  I learned quickly not to respond to the bad ones anymore.  My advice would be just to keep in mind that if you don’t have at least a couple of bad reviews, the reader may assume that you’re having your friends and family write a bunch of fake reviews.  Bad reviews can help you look more legitimate.

 

  • Is this your first book?

Yes, this is my first book.  I have not determined whether I will continue to write books.  My first hasn’t been out a year yet, so that is my priority at this time.

 

  • What is your best marketing tip for authors?

My best marketing tip is to be as active as you can on social media.  Always make sure your website is up to date, and keep your followers engaged on social media.  You never know who will discover your profile next.

 

 

  • What is your biggest fear?

One of my biggest fears in life is claustrophobia.  It’s miserable to have to get things like MRI’s done.  It’s so bad that I have trouble breathing in elevators.  Even if I’m watching a movie or TV show where there is a tight space, I need to turn it off because I have trouble breathing.

 

  • Where is one place you want to visit that you haven’t before?

I have a few, but I would love to visit Ireland or Australia the most, I think.  From what I’ve seen, they are both beautiful places to visit.

 

  • Do you have any scars? What are they from?

Unfortunately, yes I have many, many scars.  I am recovering from self-injury (self-harm) so I have a lot of scars.  There are days when I am embarrassed by them, but mostly I look at them as proof that I made it through the war.

 

  • Do you write naked?

Absolutely, 100% NO.  I can’t imagine that this would be beneficial in any way, but to each his own! I would never begrudge someone and their writing process.

 

  • Do you drink? Smoke? What’s your vice?

I drink maybe once or twice a year at gatherings, but I don’t remember the last time I was actually drunk.  I do not smoke.  My mother died of lung cancer, so that is out of the question.  My vice would probably be orange or red pop.  I love them both.  Thankfully, I’ve made a lot of changes to my lifestyle, so I don’t have them much anymore, but I do love them both.

 

It's Not Your Journey

 

Title: It’s Not Your Journey

Author: Rebecca Lombardo

Genre: Memoir

 

Book Blurb:

In her first published work, Rebecca Lombardo collects her internationally followed blog into the pages of It’s Not Your Journey. This memoir candidly details Rebecca’s two-year long chronicle of her struggles with bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety, self-injury and recovery from a suicide attempt. Rebecca shares her real and raw feelings on these subjects, as well as addressing other issues that have contributed to her downward spiral and eventual climb out of her own pit of despair. Issues such as the loss of her mother to lung cancer, the death of her brother, abandonment from friends and family members due to her hospitalization, and more. This book is about a personal journey with mental illness. Rebecca is not a professional, rather an advocate that hopes her story can help those going through similar struggles.

 

EXCERPT:

 THERAPY?

JANUARY 1, 2014

Over the course of the many years that I have suffered

from depression, I have met many doctors. For several

years, I could only see a doctor in the county where I

lived. I didn’t have mental health coverage, and they

would provide samples of the medications. It was a

tremendous benefit in one respect because I could be

on as many as seven prescriptions at a time. On the

other hand, the level of care was substandard.

Primarily, I was treated like a number on a file.

However, without fail, whichever doctor’s office I

visited, my session ended with, what about therapy?

 

 

Have you had therapy? Would you like a referral? My

answer: yes, I have had therapy and no I do not want a

recommendation.

 

I have documented my feelings on the medical

profession as a whole, focusing on the treatment of

people with mental health issues. These feelings also

extend to therapists. If you’ve never been to one but

have seen one in a movie or on a TV show, don’t even

start believing that they are anything like that. I

understand 100% that I have to do the work to get

myself feeling better but damn! Shouldn’t they have to

do some work too?

 

Aside from that, regardless of how silly this may

sound from a treatment aspect, I have not once ever

felt better after a therapy session. I have always been

the type of person who can work these things out on

my own. I don’t need to be paying someone who just

stares at me with a blank expression on their face,

barely listening. Perhaps, I have been to all of the

wrong therapists. I’ll go along with that. For over

twenty years, every therapist I have gone to was

completely useless but it was purely coincidental. Let’s

not forget the one I saw a few months back that fell

asleep while I was talking.

 

I take my husband to all of my appointments due to

the way Doctors and therapists treat me. That way,

when I walk out thinking to myself OK, did that lady

just fall asleep while I was talking to her? At least I

have someone that was there who is not considered

“mentally ill” that can back me up.

 

I know that I am only detailing negative experiences

here, but they are my only frame of reference. I

cannot, with a clear conscience say that all doctors

and therapists are incompetent, and you will never

find one that will help you. I know that is simply not

true. Who knows, there is a common denominator

here, and that would be me. Perhaps, without

knowing, I go into these appointments immediately

assuming they will fail. Therefore, it doesn’t matter

what is said or done, failure is the only outcome.

Now you can understand why this book is so

important to me.

 

Writing is my therapy. I may never

receive an ounce of feedback on anything that I write,

and that is OK because I have been allowed to tell my

story. Without sitting in an office with someone

staring back at me that so obviously couldn’t give a

damn about me.

 

Even if I do receive negative feedback from someone

regarding my book, I can handle that because just as I

am allowed to express my opinions here, others are

allowed that same luxury.

 

If I do receive feedback that is especially hurtful or

bothersome, I will cross that path when I come to it. I

am not sure how I will handle it. One thing is for

certain; I am a stronger person for being able to

document my experiences. In some cases, I receive

praise for my writing ability or my courage in the face

of all the pain I have and will endure. I will take it. I

don’t feel like there is a therapist out there that can

offer that to me with any level of sincerity.

 

My suggestion is, don’t take my words here and refuse

treatment. That is the last thing I want for anyone. I

want everyone to be aware of what can happen and

what is out there. Do your research. Ask for a

consultation to get to know the person first before you

go about telling them your life story. It is true, you

may have to pay for that appointment. Consider it

paying for the peace of mind in knowing that this

person is either a perfect fit or so far out of left field

you will never be heard. Take someone with you.

 

Someone you trust that knows at least part of the

details of your situation, so that should you begin to

forget details that person can help you fill in the

blanks. Most of all, ask questions. Find out what a

session will consist of, and how long they will last.

You can do this.

 

Maybe someday I can do it too. I will

know when I am ready, as will you. You will know

when you have found the right professional to guide

you as well. Remember, even if you feel like this

person is a good fit, should their methods or the way

they behave start to make you uncomfortable, do not

go back. You are there to get better, and above all else,

you should feel safe in that environment.

 

Buy Links:

Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Its-Your-Journey-Rebecca-Lombardo/dp/0692509739

iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/its-not-your-journey/id1065377217?mt=11

Indigo https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/its-not-your-journey/9780692509739-item.html

Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/its-not-your-journey-rebecca-lombardo/1122852005

Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/26176772-it-s-not-your-journey

 

Rebecca Lombardo

 

Author Biography:

I’m 43 years old and I’ve been happily married to my best friend for 15 years. I’ve known that I wanted to be an author since I was very young. I grew up in Michigan with my amazing parents, and 5 older siblings. My husband and I don’t have children, but we do have 5 cats that we adore. They are all rescues. I feel very strongly about being an advocate for animals. I enjoy watching movies, sports, and all sorts of television shows. I love to read when I can find the time, and I fancy myself an amateur photographer. I write a blog detailing the struggles I’ve endured in my life due to a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. I have finally achieved my dream of writing a book. It’s Not Your Journey is based on my blog of the same title.

 

 Social Media Links:

www.rebeccalombardo.com

www.amzn.com/0692509739

www.facebook.com/notyourjourney

www.twitter.com/bekalombardo

www.judgmentfreezone2013.blogspot.com

https://plus.google.com/u/0/+RebeccaLombardoAuthor