Let #Gratitude Be Your Compass and You’ll Never Get Lost! #grateful #Thanksgiving #MondayBlogs


Grateful Heart

 

What good is gratitude? It can save your life!

 

It’s Thanksgiving week in America and I thought we’d talk about what we’re grateful for all week.

 

I love this infograph and look at it quite a bit, especially when I’m feeling low. Whether I’m feeling tired, sad or jaded, when I switch my thoughts to grateful ones, my outlook changes and the dark clouds lift from my spirit. I’m not saying my dark feelings don’t disappear completely and are replaced by rainbows and fluffy bunnies. What I am saying is when I concentrate on positive things in my life, I can combat the negative feelings.

 

Let gratitude be your compass and you’ll never get lost.

 

What are you grateful for? Share in the comments below.

 

MRS N

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Never Be Afraid to Try New Things! #inspiration #MondayMotivation #MondayBlogs


try something different

 

Are you afraid to try new things for fear of failure or something else? 

 

When I was in my early twenties, I started to step out of my comfort zone. Before then, I was so afraid of what people might think or say that I only did what was “safe”. All safe got me was feeling lonely and unhappy. So, I scrunched up my courage and tried new things. Sometimes I failed but most of the time I discovered new paths and experiences.

 

We’re like a river, you and I; we have to keep moving or we’ll grow algae and poison ourselves. 

 

Last week, I tried a new cinnamon roll recipe and today we tried them for the first time. The result: cinnamon flavored bricks. Was I disappointed? Sure. Will I stop trying new recipes? No way! I learned that this particular recipe is utter crap, that’s all.

 

My advice and motivation for you: try new things and keep moving forward. You’ll never know if you like something unless you try. Don’t let the idea of possible failure prevent you from being adventurous.

 

MRS N

 

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What’s the Greatest Lesson You’ve Learned in Life? #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


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What’s the greatest life lesson you’ve learned?

 

From the time I was little, I tried to love everything and everyone. My parents said I was a bundle of love and I wanted to shower the world with love. Sometimes my love was returned and at other times, I was rejected. I was called weird, odd and adorable.

 

Was a I deterred as I grew older? Probably but when I started this blog back in 2013, my inner child came out. I love each and every one of my blog followers (yes, even you!) and I try to promote love instead of hate.

 

See, love is the greatest life lesson I’ve learned and I want to share my experiences with others. I want people to know what it’s like to be loved unconditionally. I want people to know that they’re not alone. There’s no need to be afraid or lonely; love is with you, no matter what happens.

 

Take Bowie’s advice (and mine too) and love. Don’t let hate win. Love everything and everyone. Let your love blow people over and be the epitome of unconditional love.

 

MRS N

 

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#MondayMotivation: Keep Away From People Who Belittle Your Dreams! #inspiration #MondayBlogs


Keep Away Twain

 

Are the people around you supporting you and your ambitions through positive thoughts and encouragement or are you surrounded by people who belittle you all in the name of “love”?

 

If you’ve been a follower of the POTL blog for awhile, you know I’m all about having big dreams and reaching for the stars. I’m a big proponent that everyone can do great things, more so if they cast off inhibitions and self-doubt.

 

I remember when I was in grade school and our assignment was to write an essay on what we wanted to do when we grew up. I wrote how I wanted to be President of the United States. I talked about how I’d help the poor and enact into law the requirement that everyone would be fed. When I got my essay back, I got an A- and the teacher wrote the following:

 

“You have an interesting view on how life should be and I applaud your ideals. However, no woman has (or will ever) be President of the United States. You can be an excellent First Lady, though.”

 

Talk about a bummer. Here I was, the ripe old age of nine, being told I couldn’t be a leader of a country just because I was a female. It didn’t sit well with me, especially since I had just read, “Free to be You and Me,” by Marlo Thomas.

 

The teacher, while trying to be “helpful”, belittled my dream and told me I couldn’t be President on the basis of my gender. 

 

There’ve been so many times I heard I couldn’t be/do something. If I listened to the naysayers, I wouldn’t be a successful entrepreneur and I wouldn’t be an award-winning author. My secret to success? A supportive group of people who uplift me when I need it most and don’t squash my goals as “too big” or “unreachable”.

 

If you have friends/family who fall into the naysayer group, it’s time to distance yourself as best as you can. Connect with people who encourage you and don’t tell you no. Nothing is unreachable and only you can limit what you can do!

 

MRS N

 

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Encourage One Another for Your Words May Uplift Someone! #inspiration #affirmations #MondayBlogs


Encouragement

 

Have you been going through a rough patch and second-guessing yourself?

 

We’ve all been there and know exactly what you’re going through. It’s tough and the only way to get through it is to persevere. You may be feeling like you want to give up but trust me, it’ll get better. Don’t give up!

 

Last year, as many of you know, we published a poetry book entitled Poetry of Love: The Engagement Year. Its basic premise is our real-life courtship from the day we got engaged until our wedding day. MR N was working 18 hours a day and we hardly saw each other. He expressed his love and our struggles through poems. We collected them and published them last Fall.

 

Sunday we woke up to discover our poetry book won the following award:

 

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2017 IAN Book of the Year – Poetry Finalist Award

 

We were so surprised! It was so unexpected because most of the awards were announced the previous weekend.

 

Winning this award encouraged me in ways I can’t express. See, I’d been struggling with self-doubt about my writing. I was having a hard time making the stories come out and while it’s not writer’s block, it sure felt like a dead end. I kept wondering if maybe I should just concentrate on building our author promotions business instead of writing. Then this award appeared and my doubts fled. A panel of judges deemed our writing worthy of an award.

 

There are many of us who are discouraged by life and suffer in silence. We’d love to ask for an uplifting comment but are afraid to ask. Encourage someone today. Encourage more than one person today. Your words of support will give that someone a much-needed boost of confidence. 

 

Encourage one another and change someone’s life!

 

MRS N

There’s Only One Way to #Happiness and This is it! #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


happiness

 

Are you embracing what life has to offer or are constantly worrying about what’s being thrown your way?

 

I used to be a worrywart. I used to fret and let my anxiety get the better of me. I used to worry what will happen next and how else can my life suck. Honestly, I was so unhappy because I was sucking the happiness right out of me.

 

Happiness is not as elusive as you might think. True happiness is not measured by how much money you make or how many cars you own. Happiness is a mindset and it’s different for each person. What makes me happy will not necessarily make you happy. Let me give you an example.

 

This past weekend, MR N and I went on a shopping spree. We shopped for clothes, books, music, movies, beauty (bubble bath, anyone?), housewares and more. In the afternoon, we went to the liquor store. For the next hour, we went up and down the aisles picking up wine, liquor (bourbon) and more. I’m a big wine drinker and I loved looking at each bottle then putting the ones I wanted in the cart. I got eight different varieties of wine and one bottle of Jim Beam Honey (yum). I was giddy with happiness and joy.

 

That’s an example of happiness. The experience of being able to take my time, pick out new varieties and grinning from ear to ear took away the stressors of life and allowed happiness to course in my veins. It’s not the items I bought but the journey that created the happiness.

 

Let happiness flow in your veins! Stop worrying about stuff you have no control over. Find something you enjoy and let the rest of the world fall away.

 

MRS N

Go Out Into the World Today and Spread Love! #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


Light Mother Teresa

 

Love one another.

 

This simple statement is burning in my heart as I read the horrific account of the terrorist shooting in Vegas last night. More than 50 dead and more than one-hundred injured. A white American planned and executed fellow Americans who were listening to music at a festival.

 

Where’s the love for our fellow men and women?

 

There’s many people who say that if we had bigger and badder weapons, those people could’ve defended themselves. But it’s that attitude of violence begets more violence that is exact opposite of how we need to respond. Instead of violence, let’s love each other, seeking understanding through talking not guns.

 

Go out into the world today and love the people you encounter. Smile, spread the Light that’s inside you and let kindness guide you. Mother Teresa had it right with her quote above. When you love one another, hatred and fear wave the white flag in defeat. 

 

I love you all and hope you have a safe Monday!

 

MRS N

Step Up to the Self-Serve ‘When Life Hands You Lemons’ Bar! #inspiration #MondayBlogs


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“In all my work, I try to say – ‘You may be given a load of sour lemons, why not try to make a dozen lemon meringue pies?'” — Maya Angelou

 

Life, it seems, thrives handing out lemons. Just when you think you’ve done all you can with the sour fruit, another bushel appears.

 

When life gives you lemons, what do you do? 

 

September has been chockerblockful of lemons for us and just when we think we’ve drank as much lemonade as we can take, a new basket of lemons appears. As MR N said this past weekend, “We’ve bellied up to the lemon serve yourself bar and we keep on making it delicious.” See, we tackle whatever comes our way and deal with it head-on. We used to freak out but no longer. We, instead, ask the bartender for another round.

 

Life is teaching us a life lesson every time we get a bushel of lemons. It’s not the lemons that matter but how we act and react to the sour fruit. Tired of lemonade? Make up some lemon cookies, lemon muffins or even lemon meringue pies. Be creative and remember that you’re not alone.

 

I see a bar stool has opened up. Who’s next? 😉

 

MRS N

 

 

Get Comfortable in Your Own Skin! #inspiration #bodyimage #MondayBlogs


comfortable-skin

 

Are you comfortable in your own skin?

 

After more than forty years, I’m finally comfortable in my own skin. I look at myself in the mirror and I like what I see. I’m still working on areas but my first thought isn’t to call myself ugly or fat. I’m healthy and so grateful to my body. Without it, I’d be nowhere.

 

Listen, we all have days when we don’t look or feel our best. But that’s not a reason to put down your body. Your body works hard and you should take care of it. One way to do that is to be kind to it. Give it some love and positive compliments.

 

Being comfortable in your own skin isn’t selfish or conceited. You’re not boasting; you’re loving yourself. It’s like putting on your favorite pair of jeans… you’re relaxed, cozy and feel good.

 

Instead of berating yourself for all the things wrong, take comfort in your body and who you are. Self-love is so important to your everyday health and it promotes an inner peace you can’t get anyplace else.

 

MRS N

My Advice for the #SolarEcipse2017: Shoot for the Moon! #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


eclipse joke

 

Today is a special day. In parts of North America, you can see a solar eclipse. 

 

I remember the last solar eclipse. It happened in 1979 and I was in grade school. All the kids wore special glasses and we went outside to view it. Such a special moment.

 

So what does it all mean? 

 

For those mystics out there, there is a spiritual connection that happens with an eclipse. (For more info, read this article: http://www.vogue.com/article/spiritual-guide-solar-eclipse ) For some of us, there’s a scientific connection to an eclipse. For most of us, it’s a cool event that happens once in a lifetime (or so they say).

 

Whatever the meaning, take this opportunity to make the most of your life. Are you thinking about trying something new? Do it today! Are you ready for a change? Don’t delay! Are you dreaming about something? Make it happen! Life is too short and the spiritual pull of the eclipse is the perfect opportunity to shoot for the moon! 

 

MRS N

Promote What You Love Instead of Bashing What You Hate! #MondayBlogs #EndofHate #LoveisLove


Promote love

 

Those of us who live in North America were witness to a weekend of hatred and I, for one, am sick of hate permeating the world like a fatal disease. Did we learn nothing from the past (American Civil War, World War II, Civil Rights Movement)?

 

There are people in this world who are promoting Nazi propaganda under a new name but the truth is that it is still an attempt to eradicate races. The leaders of white supremacy use fear as their weapon of choice and if you don’t agree with them, they’ll use violence to convince you.

 

It’s time to make a stand, people. I’m here on this blog platform saying it’s time to promote love and understanding. No one is better than another person. We’re all here on this Earth together and we’re equal. We have the right to exist, thrive and carve out a life, regardless of race, creed or sex. Like flowers, there’s millions of different varieties of human beings in this world and we need to cherish them all.

 

END THE HATE!

 

I will no longer be silent. I follow the Golden Rule (Treat others how you’d like to be treated) and so should everyone else.

 

Promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.

 

MRS N

 

 

Is the World Against You? Refocus and Then Take Flight! #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


perseverance

 

Are you struggling and it feels like the world is against you? 

 

It’s time to refocus. Instead of saying to yourself, “woe is me”, envision you’re a mighty airplane and take off. Airplanes, no matter the size, take off against the wind. That’s pretty impressive when you think about it. An airplane, in order to reach its destination, first has to encounter massive resistance. It can’t leave the ground, let alone fly, without gravity and wind pushing against it.

 

What if, today and every day, we imagine ourselves to be a jet and every obstacle we receive is just allowing us to fly to new heights?

 

Shift your perspective and welcome resistance. Before you know it, you’ll be flying among the stars.

 

MRS N

Respect One Another: It’s the Right Thing to Do #inspiration #MondayMotivation #MondayBlogs


respect one another

 

Take a look around and you’ll see why it’s so important to respect one another.

 

The world is filled with hatred, jealousy, greed, etc. Various world leaders engage in a war of words that could set off the end of the world for all of us. Average, normal people act in ways that prop up hatred and violence. It’s easy to let darkness cover our hearts and follow others’ examples but I’m begging you to resist going down that path. Instead, follow my example and respect one another.

 

We all have different beliefs and we’re special in our own way. We’re unique in our life experiences and perceptions. Instead of pointing out our differences, let’s respect each other. We may not agree with everyone but that doesn’t give us the right to judge.

 

So whether it is online or in person, listen to what the other person is saying and coming from. Respect them as a fellow human being. You don’t have to be a ‘yes’ man or woman, just an understanding one. 

 

MRS N

Let Your Imagination Run Away… #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


imagination

 

Has your imagination run away from home? Have you reported it as a missing persons?

 

My imagination has run away so many times, I’ve lost count. I don’t fret, though, because each time it runs away, it comes back with amazing possibilities. If I had kept it hidden away under lock and key…

 

I never would’ve become a bestselling author.

 

I never would’ve married my soul mate and beloved husband.

 

I never would’ve started an author promotions business.

 

I never would’ve started this blog.

 

I never would’ve known how strong I am or what I could do.

 

Letting your imagination free is the first step towards success and living out your dreams. Don’t let fear of the unknown stall your life. Make the following statement a foundation for your life:

 

I have a habit of letting my imagination run away from me. It always comes back, though… drenched with possibilities.

 

MRS N

 

 

Life Isn’t Supposed to Paralyze You But to Help You #inspiration #MondayBlogs


life challenges

 

Are you feeling paralyzed by all that life is throwing at you? 

 

Each struggle we go through is like a session in the great big kiln of life. We’re moulding clay and still in the creating process. Everything we go through, whether good or bad, adds more definition to our form. It hurts sometimes… okay it hurts a lot, but it’s good for us. We’d never know our inner strength and courage if we didn’t experience struggles and failures.

 

I wouldn’t be the person I am today if it hadn’t been for all the times I messed up. Each was a learning experience and I’m a better person for it. For all the times I hit a dead end, I had a choice: give up or retrace my steps to find the right path. Guess which one I chose?

 

I know you’re feeling stressed out and not knowing how much more you can take. Don’t let the fire inside the great kiln of life paralyze you with fear. Think of it like taking off extra layers in order to release the god/goddess within. 

 

Look at your road blocks/challenges in the face and say, “I’m ready!” Then watch to see the changes in you.

 

MRS N

Here’s How You Can Change the World For the Better #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


word to live by

 

Every morning, it seems, there’s violence and murder to accompany our breakfast. Terrorist attacks, death, people shot in the streets… it’s enough to make us want to give up. I mean, what can we do?

We can change our corner of the world by following the above quote.

By spreading love instead of hate, we’re combating the darkness with Light. By being kind, we’re unleashing a fantastic chain of events that will lead to positivity. By rounding up criminals, bad guys, etc., we’re showing that we’re not afraid anymore. There’s more good than bad in this world; it’s time we start talking about it.

Change your perspective and you’ll be on your way to changing the world!

MRS N

How to be More Confident #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


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Photo Credit: mrbolero.com

 

Could you use a dash of confidence to start the week?

I sure could!

There isn’t a person alive who couldn’t use more confidence, except for certain political leaders.

I’m struggling with seasonal allergies and it’s been challenging to get good sleep. When I’m sleepy, my confidence slips and I second-guess myself. I need a booster shot of confidence. So, I looked over the above quote to gain confidence.

Confidence not only helps us achieve our dreams but makes us feel good. We see ourselves the way others see us and positivity flows in our veins.

Which of these five tips are you going to incorporate into your everyday living?

I’m going to concentrate on #1. I’ve been comparing myself with others (both in my professional and personal life) and all it’s made me is self-conscious. I’m a contributing member of society and have a lot to offer. My writing inspires others and my experience helps others achieve success. I have a lot more to do so I better get started.

Have a great week, everyone!

MRS N

Are the Storms in Your Life Preventing You From Seeing the Sun? #inspiration #motivation #MondayBlogs


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Are you going through a difficult time? Has 2017 been a hellish year?

You’re in the middle of a vicious storm that rivals Hurricane Katrina. You’re drenched and you haven’t seen the sun for months. What to do?

Don’t confuse your path with your destination. Just because it’s stormy now doesn’t mean that you aren’t headed for sunshine.

You can make it through the storm. Cling to your umbrella and keep moving forward. The storm will eventually pass and you will be surrounded by the sun! 🙂

Are You Moving Forward or Just Looking Forward? #inspiration #MondayBlogs #Monday


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Are you moving forward or just looking forward?

The future is unknown and yet there are many of us who pine for the future, look forward to the future and generally live in the future. The present doesn’t matter, only the future.

Is that really a way to live?

Listen, when I was younger, I lived in the future. I didn’t give a damn about the past or the present. I was miserable and wanted out of the life I was living. So, I propelled myself to the future with thoughts like these:

When I get older, I’ll be successful and show those bullies I’m somebody.

When I get older, I’ll show all those guys what a mistake they made dumping me.

When I become a successful author, I’ll show those agents what a mistake they made not choosing me as a client.

On and on these thoughts went and you know what? I wasn’t moving forward, just looking forward.

Life is meant to be lived in the present. Don’t make the same mistakes as me. Plan for the future but live in the now.

“You’ll never know for sure what tomorrow holds unless you keep moving forward.”

MRS N

Can You Ever Really Go Home Again? It Depends on Where Home is #inspiration #MondayBlogs


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Can you really go home again?

This question rattled around in my brain all weekend. On Friday, Google Maps did a fun thing for April Fools. You could play Ms. Pac-Man on actual streets using Google Maps. So, I did what every adult on the planet did: I called up a neighborhood and played. It was great amounts of fun.

What neighborhood did I choose?

The street I grew up on.

When MR N asked me what neighborhood I chose, I told him my childhood home. His face fell a smidgen and asked me, “Is that what you consider home?”

“No, of course not.” I replied. “Our neighborhood is my home.” But it made me pause. If what I said was the truth, then why did I go back home, to my childhood home?

We all want to go back home, to where we grew up, and show up successful, happy and content.

When I left my childhood home all those years ago, no one thought I would be anything. In fact, they all thought I was a head-in-the-cloud young woman with crazy dreams. My school bullies thought I was a nerd and a geek. Boy, did I prove them wrong. 😉

Today, I’m happy to call my neighborhood home and wherever my husband is, that is home. It’s a blissful state because no matter where we live, I’m home. So, no matter what I’m doing during the work day, it’s such a relief to come home every night with spend it with my beloved.

Home is where the heart is. Home should be wherever your heart is, not necessarily where you grew up. You can go home again and every night you do, take a moment and give thanks.

MRS N

When at a Crossroads, Choose to Take the Bolder Path #inspiration #MondayBlogs


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Are you at a crossroads in life and don’t know which path to take?

We’ve all been conflicted by one of life’s intersections and we must choose between two seemingly equal choices. Which way to go? It’s natural to take the easy path but I challenge you to take the bolder, riskier path.

Why?

Taking the bolder path stretches your imagination and you learn just how amazing life can be.

When I decided it was time to publish Princess of the Light, the path I first took was the traditional one (get an agent and get published by the Big 5). For more than a year, I submitted to literary agents and after awhile, I started spinning my wheels. What was I doing? Was I making the right choice?

The bolder choice: self-publish. Could I do it myself? Could I hire a cover designer and editor in order to make my book the very best it could be?

I took the leap and have never looked back. Sure, it was scary and I made some costly mistakes. But I learned more about myself and my determination than anything else. I’ve never regretted my decision to go indie and I love the freedom that comes with it.

Life has a way of leading us onto the right path and more times than not, it’s the bolder road to success. Don’t let your fear dictate where you go; follow your heart and go bold!

MRS N

Without Terrible Days, You’ll Never Cherish Great Days! #inspiration #MondayBlogs


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Photo Credit: imgarcade.com

 

We’ve all had days when it feels like our lives are over.

Yesterday, I was relaxing with MR N and we saw a scene unfold in the parking lot across from our building. A woman in her early twenties paced, yelled and cried to her friends around her. Something was clearly wrong and at one point she screamed, “OMG, my life is over!”

I wanted to run over to her, give her a hug and tell her it was going to be okay. It may seem like life is over but this, too, shall pass.

I remember clearly a time when I thought my life wasn’t worth living anymore. I was in the pit of despair and the darkness had me in a choke hold. I couldn’t breathe, couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep; the pain, grief and suffering overwhelmed me. I wanted out of this life and I almost ran away. Almost.

What did I do?

I took it one day at a time. My best friend held me and told me life would get better. The pain eased and through my faith, my life improved. Now I’m living the most amazing life, something I never envisioned all those years ago.

Listen, we’re going to have bad days, days when when the darkness swells over our heads and we’re fighting to just stay afloat. This too shall pass. We can’t savor the good days without going through the bad ones.

Be grateful for everything and take it one moment at a time. Believe in the promise of tomorrow and you’ll get through this.

MRS N

Raise Your Hand if You Love #SocialMedia … #MondayBlogs #love #motivation


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Who here loves social media?

I do, too, but there comes a time when our love for social media takes over our lives. It becomes an obsession. You have to be online 24/7 to make sure you don’t miss an update and/or notification.

As a writer/blogger/marketer, I understand what you’re going through. It’s hard to shut off but trust me when I tell you that shutting off your device for a few hours or even a day is actually beneficial to your health.

The term is digital detox and it’s becoming more and more popular. Read all about it here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Digital_detox

When I became a social media marketer six years ago, MR N and I made an agreement to take weekends off. If a client emailed me on the weekend, I wouldn’t read it or reply. The weekends were off-limits and reserved for family time.

Was it hard?

Sure, it was… and sometimes still is. But it’s necessary for my overall health and at the end of the day, I’m much happier.

Listen, social media is great and I’d be out of a job if it wasn’t for social media. I met MR N via social media and I’m forever grateful. But there comes a time when we all have to unplug and get away.

Love of social media is perfectly healthy and rather fun. But when you start to get anxious and stressed out by social media, maybe it’s time to take a break. Shut off your device for one hour and see what happens. Relax, take it easy, go for a walk, do something you enjoy. Social media’s like your faithful pet; it’ll be there when you get back.

Do you take a digital detox? Share your experience in the comments below.

MRS N

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Saying “I Love You” Means Loving All the Parts, Not Just the Pretty Ones #MondayBlogs


romatic love

Love, in its purest form, is loving the monster inside just as much as loving the angel.

Mr. N is reading a book right now and has come to a touchy subject: trust and love. The character (we’ll call him Jim) is a conflicted man. He’s had his share of betrayal and loss. He’s in a relationship with a loving, caring woman yet he doesn’t trust her. He goes so far as to hire a private detective to follow her around. He just knows she’s cheating on him. He feels guilty about it and when the report comes in the mail, he refuses to open it. Overcome with guilt, he tells her what he did. His defense: but I didn’t open it.

She’s angry, hurt and leaves him. As she’s walking out the door, she says in so many words:

“Love without trust isn’t love at all; you can’t have one without the other.”

Truer words haven’t been spoken. Trust and Love are interconnected. You can’t love without trust and you can’t trust without love.

When I was in my early twenties, I let my insecurities rule my heart. Jealousy waged war in every single relationship I was in. I needed constant affirmations and when push came to shove, my jealousy drove them away. I simply didn’t trust them.

Trust can be scary but then so is love. It means leaving yourself exposed to rejection, pain, anger and loneliness. But it also opens you up to love, peace, joy and happiness.

I opened myself up to MR N and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. Sure, it’s scary but the love we share, the unadulterated joy we feel, is the best thing in the world. We walk hand-in-hand through life letting trust and love guide our path.

Let unconditional love rule your heart and follow this mantra:

I love you. That means I’m not just here for the pretty parts. I’m here no matter what.

MRS N

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MLK love

“I have decided to love.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Today is Martin Luther King day in the United States. For those of you who may not know your history, Martin Luther King Jr. was the leader of the Civil Rights Movement in the 1960’s. He believed the time had come for all men (and women) to have the same rights and freedoms, as dictated in the Constitution. He was a peaceful man and was assassinated April 4, 1968.

He’s one of my historical heroes, not because he fought for what was right and just but because he didn’t hold hate in his heart. He loved everyone, even those who hated him and ultimately killed him. His message still applies today:

“I have decided to love. If you are seeking the highest good, I think you can find it through love.”

While it pains me to look around the world and see oppression, violence and hate, I know Martin Luther King’s dream is still possible. It’s possible to love your neighbor as yourself, to love your enemy and to spread love throughout the world.

How about you? Are you ready to be the embodiment of love?

Join with me and decide to love. Banish hate from your heart and let love rule in its place.

Thank you, Martin Luther King Jr., for being a guiding Light and for teaching us to love.

MRS N