Are you surrounded by people who love, motivate and encourage you?
In order to grow as a person, we need a nurturing environment. Think of yourself as a seedling and in order to grow into a productive plant/shrub/tree, you need sun, water and extra nutrients. Without that kind of supportive environment, you’ll wither and die.
When I was younger, I didn’t surround myself with positive, encouraging people. In fact, my so-called friends spewed negativity and brought me down. I couldn’t do anything right and was an embarrassment. It’s no wonder I had a low self-esteem.
It wasn’t until I distanced myself from these downers that I began to bloom. I replaced negative friends with positive buddies and you know what, my whole outlook changed. I started dreaming big dreams and the people around me supported me. In fact, they were my cheerleader squad! I tried a bunch of new things and spread my wings.
We all need a positive support system, a group of peers who’ll love, motivate and encourage us. They’ll hold us up when we falter and be our training wheels when we get back on our bicycle. Their unconditional love uplifts us to reach for the stars and celebrates when we reach success.
So again I ask: are you surrounded by people who love, motivate and encourage you?
If not, maybe it’s time to switch up the people you call your friends.
Winnie the Pooh is the dreamer, likes to eat honey and lives a simple life.
Piglet is small in stature but with a big heart. He loves his friends fiercely and is often afraid of the unknown.
Rabbit is the know-it-all. His knowledge is great and he’s all about order. He’s a big planner and when things go wrong, he doesn’t know what to do.
Eeyore is gloomy, looking at life as one big continuous bad day. He doesn’t ask for anything and finds great joy in rolling in leaves and eating thistles.
Tigger is the eternal optimist and loves bouncing on his tail. He’s also the risk-taker, going on big adventures and laughing a lot.
Kanga is the mother of the group, taking care of everyone. She’s kind, thoughtful and quiet.
Roo is the littlest one and tries to do/feel/taste all that life has to offer. It doesn’t matter to him that he’s small or can’t do something. He’s going to try, no matter what everyone else says. He’s lovable and he’s the embodiment of innocence.
I’m Winnie the Pooh. I love everyone and everything. I try to figure things out but when it gets too hard for my brain, I sit down with a pot of honey. lol!
Today’s inspirational thought is simple:
A little consideration,
A little thought for others,
Makes all the difference.
We can all take this advice and incorporate it into our lives.
Think before speaking. Show kindness. Love one another, even those you don’t care for. Help others when they need it, not when they ask for it.
See you in the Hundred Acre Woods. I’m off to meet up with Piglet, Tigger and Roo for an adventure.
We’re all blessed with certain amount of natural talents and abilities. Our hearts are wired to intuitively guide us to what we’re meant to do.
Ever since I was little, I’ve had a natural ability to write. Words flowed out of me faster than I could write them down. My heart urged me to pursue a career in writing but because there wasn’t a lot of money in it, I veered off-course. It wasn’t until after I married MR N and he got a promotion that I was able to write full-time.
Writing, for me, is my heart’s desire and it is what I’m meant to do. My passion for writing increases with time and I love it. I’m living my dream life and having the time of my life!
Don’t let the odds of being successful deter you from chasing after your dreams and doing what you’re meant to do. Sit down, make a plan to achieve it and then go after it. Life is too short to let indecision rule your heart. As Nike reminds us…
I’m a big fan of Kasey Musgraves and a lyric from one of her songs really resonates with me.
“Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy.”
In the song, she talks about how people need to do their own thing and not be so concerned about other people’s business.
We can all relate to this, can’t we?
There’s always people in our circle of influence (family, friends, neighbors, etc.) who seem to stick their nose in everyone’s business. They may say they’re only being helpful but in all reality, they’re being nosy.
A simple life motto, this lyric is, isn’t it?
Mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy.
I’m going to adopt this motto for my own life. I’m minding my own biscuits and life is pretty delicious!
Life is beautiful, heart-breaking, emotional… a true work of art. Each moment interwoven to create a stunning, colorful tapestry.
2017 is turning out to be very different than 2016 and I’m so thankful for that. There’s a feeling of change in the air and it’s already happened for me. I’ve had to let things go and reevaluate where I’m headed.
Living life is all about balancing letting go and holding on.
People come and go in your life. You change jobs, homes, schools, friends, etc. Obstacles block your path and your journey takes a curve you didn’t expect. It’s up to you how you react and respond.
Do you put your head in the sand, like an ostrich, pretending it isn’t happening? Or do you choose to let go and see what happens?
Let go of the stress, negativity and toxic environments. Breathe deep and recenter yourself. Embrace your journey and hold on, for it’s going to be an adventure. A great big adventure more beautiful than any artwork hanging in a museum.
All the art of living lies in a fine mingling letting go and holding on.
I saw this quote this morning as I was having my breakfast and suddenly every obstacle I’ve ever faced and every challenge I’ve dealt with made sense.
I’ve been rebelling against myself. Instead of seeing myself as a beautiful sum of all of my parts, I’ve been focused solely on my faults. My inner voice chanting, “Woe is me.” The self-pity party is never-ending.
So starting today, I’m changing my inner focus. I’m tired of beating myself up.
Life’s the ultimate game and at the end of the day, every player can be a winner by having the audacity to accept all the parts of ourselves and trying our best.
Rejection. It’s something we all deal with but what if we’re not being rejected but re-directed instead?
As an author, I’ve had my share of rejection. I have an email folder dedicated to all those industry professionals who rejected my writing. At the time of the rejection, I was crushed. I thought my life was over and I might as well give up.
But as I look back on it now, I know it was the Universe leading me to where I am today. I’m a successful author with four books published and more on the way. 😉
As a woman, I was rejected by several men (for various reasons). If they hadn’t rejected me, I never would’ve met and fallen in love with MR N.
Have you encountered a road block and are feeling the sting of rejection? It could be a re-direction to put you on the right path.
As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.
Are you dealing with pain, loss, disappointment, grief, anger?
The past two weeks have kicked me down into the gutter. This flu has dampened my spirit and I’m in need of inspiration. Even the most mundane tasks seem to take forever and I’m exhausted. When I found this quote, I knew exactly what I needed to do.
I closed my eyes, concentrated on what brings me joy and meditated. This is what I concentrated on:
I know it’s no surprise to our followers that the one thing that fills my heart with joy is my beloved. He loves me for me and he encourages me to look at the positive.
Joy, pure unadulterated joy, is the antidote for pain. Do what I do and focus on your joyful moment and it will purge the pain.
Is your stomach tied in knots and you’re not sleeping?
Worrying about something or someone is a total waste of time.
WAIT! Before you shut off this message, hear me out.
I’m a worrier and my first instinct is to worry when something happens. I worry about a lot of things and I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Worrying about something/someone hasn’t helped me one bit. In fact, most of the time, all it does is make me feel miserable and makes it worse.
Instead of worrying, meditate about the situation. Release your death grip on it and let the Universe take over.
Breathe… yes, breathing is important too. Take several deep breaths and mentally tell yourself it’s going to be okay.
Smile, you’re living your life and have many blessings. Take out a piece of paper of write down all you’re grateful for. Don’t hold back.
Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keep you very busy doing nothing.
What do you do to combat worry? Share in the comments below.
Why is that? Don’t we crave honest opinions of our family, friends and co-workers?
Honesty is never easy, especially when it may hurt another. But I always ask my friends and family to be honest with me. It’s better to know upfront how they feel than to hear whispers behind my back.
I love this quote by Thomas Jefferson. Honesty is the first chapter of wisdom. Being honest doesn’t mean going up to someone with the intention of hurting them. That is bullying. Being honest is telling a friend how you feel about something but always in a positive way.
Today, when you encounter a friend or family member and they ask your opinion, be honest. It’s one step closer to being wise.
Letting go is hard, especially when it’s something that you have no control of.
A friend of mine (let’s call her Lori) came to me with something that was troubling her.
… “and then she just up and stopped being my friend.”
“What do you mean? Did she tell you she didn’t want to be friends anymore?” I asked.
“No.” Lori paused. “She has new friends now and doesn’t return my calls, emails and breaks engagements on short notice.”
“Oh.” I thought about it for a minute. “Did you ask her about it? Maybe she’s going through a rough time.”
“She is and the kicker is that I have been there for her through it all. I’ve been so supportive. It just hurts, you know?”
“I know, sweetie, and I’m sorry you’re going through such pain. But if she doesn’t want to be your friend anymore, the best thing you can do is to just let go.”
I hug my friend, Lori.
Have you had this happen? I sure have. Friends have come and gone in my life. It’s painful and it sucks. My first instinct is to make things right in any relationship, even if it is not my fault. I don’t like conflict and I will try anything to bring back peace.
The reality is that when a relationship is over (whether it’s on your end or the other person’s end), you’ve got to just let go and move on. It doesn’t mean that you stop loving that person. It doesn’t mean that you’re a failure. It just means that the person is no longer in your inner circle.
Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.
Lori is starting to let go and I’m glad. After time has passed, Lori will reflect on the happy times with her friend and see the benefit of letting go.
Look deep into your heart and ask yourself this question:
Are you chasing happiness only to have it slip through your fingers?
Happiness is a tricky concept to understand. Some people are born happy while others search frantically for it.
I used to go chasing after it. I used to think that in order to be happy, I had to have [insert want] in my life. Money, a man, a friend, food, car, wardrobe, etc. were just a few of my wants. The more I chased, the more the want slipped from my fingers.
I was miserable. 😦
It wasn’t until I stopped chasing happiness and switched up my perspective that happiness came to live in my heart.
Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.
So, stop chasing happiness and concentrate on other things. Before you know it, happiness will land on your shoulder. 🙂
Would it surprise you to know that the more truthful you are, the stronger you become?
I used to believe that in order to get along with others, I had to be careful of how truthful I was. I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or make them feel bad. Let me tell you, it was mentally exhausting. I retreated back inside myself, like a turtle. It wasn’t until I started being truthful with myself and then with others did I start to feel strength.
Now, I must tell you, I don’t mean being truthful entitles you to be cruel and to bully others. Real truth is being honest and voicing your opinion. Here’s an example:
A writer friend of mine asked me to read over his short story and give my honest opinion. Before agreeing I made it clear that I will look it over but I will not lie. If I think it is crap, I will have to be honest. He respected my integrity and I read his short story. This was my reply to him:
I really liked the premise of the short story. There were a few consistency issues but I made some notes for you. I think if you made a few changes, it will be a shoe-in.
See what I did there? I encouraged him while still being honest.
I love this quote by Alanis and the idea of being truthful and vulnerable leads to empowerment. What a novel thought. You don’t think of truth as being powerful but it is. The more truthful you are, the more authentic you are. 🙂
Together, let’s be Truth Seekers!
Have you ever struggled with truthfulness? Share below, as I’d love to hear about your experience!
Ask a roomful of authors how they feel about writing author interviews and you’ll likely clear the room. For many authors, debut as well as seasoned, conducting an interview is scary. There’s a lot of pressure and it’s easy to get caught up in it.
How can I create the right first impression?
How do I want to be perceived?
What do I want someone to remember about me?
Why can’t I just talk about my book?
What if I come across as dumb?
These questions and more pummel an author until he/she lies in a puddle on the floor. Listen, promoting yourself as well as your books is essential in the industry. Readers want to know about you first and your books second. The quickest way to do that is to do an author interview.
As you may or may not know, I’m a book marketer and I help authors every day market themselves and their books. Whether it is through an author interview or a guest post, you are trying to connect with the reader. They want to know more about you and what makes you tick. They want to know what inspired you to write your books. They want to get an inside glimpse into the inner workings of you, the author, before they buy your book.
I have seen many authors make mistakes when it comes to the author interview and many excel at it. I want to help you give the best possible interview. Here are my top five tips:
1- Breathe. Breathe Breathe. This is not the end of the world. In fact, this is exciting! Someone out there wants to have you on their blog/website. They find you interesting enough to interview and promote you. High five!
2- Study the questions carefully. Each blog/website has a different set of questions they want answered. Some, like mine, give you a lot of questions to choose from. If you have the option of let’s say eight questions, make sure to have a mixture of professional and personal questions. Remember, you are aiming this at the average reader. They want to get to know you. As a rule, I like to mention my love of baking and/or chocolate. It allows me to relate on a more personal level.
3- Answer the questions in detail. There is nothing worse than an author interview that has short choppy answers. Where do you live?Don’t just name a town but chat a little about it. Entice the reader with a snapshot into your personal life. You are a writer and words are your friends. Let your natural ability shine when answering the questions. First impressions are important and you want the reader to remember you in a positive way.
4- Proofread the interview at least twice. As a rule, I don’t edit author interviews that are scheduled on this blog. It’s not my place to rework your words. My job is to present you in an eye-appealing way and to get the message out there about you. Read it aloud and make sure it flows well.
5- Follow the instructions to the letter and send off your interview. Every blog/website has a set of rules for what they need. For me, I need the interview, author bio, buy links, social media links and blurb all saved in a word doc. In addition, I need a book cover and an author photo. I ask for these things to be emailed to me no later than three days before the scheduled interview. I can’t stress this enough, FOLLOW directions! I have heard from my fellow promoters/bloggers how many times this gets overlooked by the author. Many of us have day jobs and it takes time to create an blog post/ author interview, not mention scheduling the marketing via social media. Having everything sent in one email makes it so much easier to get it done quickly.
Author interviews are a great way to meet new readers and connect with a new circle or followers. It doesn’t have to be scary and please, don’t freak out. In my opinion, it’s one of the easiest ways (besides Twitter) to mesh well with readers. Get creative and most importantly, have fun!
Life is a lot like baseball. Every morning we put on our uniform and head out to the field of our choice. We warm up and when the clock strikes, we start the game at our position. The outcome doesn’t matter; our determination to try our best and compete is all that counts.
Are you ready to compete, no matter how many curve balls are thrown in your face??
Be like David Wright from the New York Mets.
Whether you have a great game or a terrible game, tomorrow’s another day and you’ve got to come out here and compete.
If you had the power to make life better for another person, would you do it?
Here’s the thing, you have the power to be influential and to help others. You may not know how or where, but you have the power.
I love this quote by Roberto Clemente! He was a generous man who came from poverty. He never forgot where he came from and when he wasn’t playing baseball, he was donating his time, money and resources to helping others in his country.
How can you help others?
You can volunteer your time at local food banks, charities and/or non-profit organizations.
You can donate money in person or online.
You can organize a fundraiser with your friends and family to help those less fortunate.
If you have the opportunity in life to make things better, and you don’t, you’re wasting your time on earth.